BGR driving me crazy

[KCisBad]

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring.
But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

[fulham]

playing hard to get?

[oxeso]

Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

Ts,
since u said so,do excuse me for being blunt. Since it's pretty relative,i can only guess.
Maybe all she wants is d feeling of being courted.
Maybe she's juz another flirt.
Maybe she have better choices,thus keeping u as a spare.
Many possibilities tat i can pen,but i dun wanna be a bore.
Placed in ur position,i wouldn't persist. Life taught me to be more rational,take more turns to c wat's available at d next corner.(esp when it leads u to a blur,or nowhere.)
Do more ventures,diversify ur investments.My 2 cents n i hope it gets u there.
Gd luck ya..:)

[karoosel]

...perhaps she is just not into you..? :confused:

[Gentle Beast]

Take a chance and stop messaging her. Give short replies, like OK. If she is sincere about the relationship she will try to find out the sudden change in your pattern.

Don't go crazy over this; the one most emotional loses this game. If she is crazy about you, she will soon be eating out of your hands. Stay cool but if it doesn't work out, at least you know she is not that crazy about you. Take it as a lesson and move on.

[KCisBad]

playing hard to get?

Yea, could be man..

Ts,
since u said so,do excuse me for being blunt. Since it's pretty relative,i can only guess.
Maybe all she wants is d feeling of being courted.
Maybe she's juz another flirt.
Maybe she have better choices,thus keeping u as a spare.
Many possibilities tat i can pen,but i dun wanna be a bore.
Placed in ur position,i wouldn't persist. Life taught me to be more rational,take more turns to c wat's available at d next corner.(esp when it leads u to a blur,or nowhere.)
Do more ventures,diversify ur investments.My 2 cents n i hope it gets u there.
Gd luck ya..:)
No worries.
No offence taken.
Its hard to know the full situation online.

Erm, she is a very "siwen" girl.
Not the kind that is "bad" in my image.
Maybe a spare..

thanks for ur input.

...perhaps she is just not into you..? :confused:

Maybe..
Take a chance and stop messaging her. Give short replies, like OK. If she is sincere about the relationship she will try to find out the sudden change in your pattern.

Don't go crazy over this; the one most emotional loses this game. If she is crazy about you, she will soon be eating out of your hands. Stay cool but if it doesn't work out, at least you know she is not that crazy about you. Take it as a lesson and move on.

Ya, very good advice.
But i cant bring myself to do it.

because i have done it b4 in other situations with other girls and they just stop. lol

So part of me wants this and part of me is scared to find out the truth. (if its bad)

*i would give the same advice to a ffren though, but its harder to do it if im the one who wants it more. (i think)


But thanks guys.
Appreciate the inputs.

[Tai_zi21]

Just my pov

Why be so 犯贱 when the other party dun bother abt you? The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg!

If she can choose to go out with other guy But not u obviously you are not potential bf to be already!

Many fishes in the ocean! Have fun catching :cool:

[KCisBad]

Just my pov

Why be so 犯贱 when the other party dun bother abt you? The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg!

If she can choose to go out with other guy But not u obviously you are not potential bf to be already!

Many fishes in the ocean! Have fun catching :cool:

Thanks for your tough love man.

though i dont agree with one part "The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg! "
Becos intially i was the one who msged her.
And slowly she started "warming" up to me in text.

But still stuck at that stage.
Somehow she doesnt want to go out.


But thanks again.

[mevius]

Some girls play hard to get , bro , you try don't MSG or call her for 1 day , see her reaction test test water than u will know ... Quit hard ba , I believe she sian nothing to do than MSG with u to pass time ..

[KCisBad]

Some girls play hard to get , bro , you try don't MSG or call her for 1 day , see her reaction test test water than u will know ... Quit hard ba , I believe she sian nothing to do than MSG with u to pass time ..

thanks bro.
Yea some can play hard to get..
Some fish just dont give you some slack to rail them in.




Thanks for the comments guys.
Really appreciate it.

[mevius]

bro i suggest u find another target , treat this girl as bonus .. like this u wont get hurt ... no 1st prize also got starter :D:D:D

[xpinkyx-moment]

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring.
But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

I can Understand Ur feeling bro ~
but wonder the other guys is her good /old friends or new friends ?

and sometyms u wanna meet her u dun last min msg her ba i guess ,
maybe she had plans on that day liao , then u missed the chances ..
sometyms they really busy ba .. u dun think too much ..


If she feels u are important , she will feel like running out and find u de lolz ~

[Ken79]

gals text chat, phone chat or go out with guys for many reasons for eg.
kill boredom
she's wants to know u better in terms of characters
she's sizing u up in terms of financials: where u bring her go for food, drive or dont drive, give her gifts on BDs or major PHs like x'mas or v'day.

the reasons she wont go out on a date with u is the reverse of upstairs.
the way u dress: women dont wanna go out with men who dresses like an uncle or caveman and then run into friends, colleagues or worse an ex on the streets.
your characters: women like men with charm n humor if they are going to look at them or talk with them for a long time they'd want to be entertained.

women enjoyed being pampered and any date in a mall for movies will certainly almost always precede with some shopping, a dinner in a restaurant and being sent home in a car. they hate slogging it out in a foodcourt or take a public transport.

then she'd want to know if u can take her for holidays regularly enough and no JB or batam dont count lol.

so guys rate a gals dating values based on looks n figure
gals rate guys based on characters n financials.

we are all in this rat race trying to impress and outdo each other until we find a husband/wife material and decides "ok we're in it for life now so lets be frugal as much as possible and save for our future".

[ShittyAss]

Another guy ask her out n she agreed?

Sorry TS.. But what's wrong Wif her going out with another guy? Probably just dinner etc? Not as if ons rite? Ai Zai abit..

Is she ur gf now? Even if she is ur gf.. She has her freedom for her friends..

N when she is out with the other guy.. U better dun flood her sms... If u do that.. I confirm n chop she will get bloody irritated n turn off..

Then again.. Can I ask what's ur age ah?

How come u didnt know your stand when u are going after a girl?? U r not her bf /husband yet.

She has her choice dude.

[KCisBad]

thanks bros.

You guys make sense no matter which angle you are coming from.

Whether its soft logical opinions or tough love shooting me. :o
They do all make sense.

And i really appreciate it.
(sincerely do)
:)


Will slowly up you guys when i can.

[xpinkyx-moment]

Good Luck to you bro =)

[KCisBad]

Good Luck to you bro =)

Thanks bro,

By the way, yea i think i ask her too last min.

But i did try all kinds.

I ask her 1 week in advance.
3 days in advance.
1 day iin advance.
The day b4.
2 hours b4.


I ask her way in advance she will have time to plan and slot in other people.
She will always get other frens in.
I dun mind but sometimes i just want to go out with her alone.


Then if i ask too last min, either she cant as you said, she has other plans or she STILL can last min get frens to join.



Then i tried to test her.
In one of our sms conversations.
She ask me one of my secrets which another good fren knows.
(we were talking about other things as well, so like 2-3 topics in 1 msg)
But for this topic about the secret i said, "i'll tell you if we do meet. But if you dont want to meet me alone you can ask `so and so`. "
And she said replied " (.... replied to other topics) oh okay. "

Normally ppl will say "no la" or whatever, trying to at least deny.
But i think she gave me a very strong hint.

She said oh okay.

So i take it that she doesnt feel comfortable going out with me alone.

Oh well.

[Ken79]

TS bro... insisting her to go out with u 1-1 might be a bit childish and somewhat presumptuous

she wanna ask frens along at least she shows some interest (and effort), because she thinks u guys still dont know each other well enough in person an scare that lack of rapport will lead into a stalemate of uneasy silence, hence she wants some frens in tow, at least for the initial few dates.

if u play your cards right n well, one fine day maybe after the 3-4 outings she' eventually agree to go out with u 1-1.
too often guys scare gals away is because they want to get 'there' almost immediately, wanting to forgo the journey that gets them 'there'

[KCisBad]

TS bro... insisting her to go out with u 1-1 might be a bit childish and somewhat presumptuous

she wanna ask frens along at least she shows some interest (and effort), because she thinks u guys still dont know each other well enough in person an scare that lack of rapport will lead into a stalemate of uneasy silence, hence she wants some frens in tow, at least for the initial few dates.

if u play your cards right n well, one fine day maybe after the 3-4 outings she' eventually agree to go out with u 1-1.
too often guys scare gals away is because they want to get 'there' almost immediately, wanting to forgo the journey that gets them 'there'

Hi Bro ken,

THanks for dropping by.

I agree with you 100%.

Thing is, we went out as a group together already so many times.
Our frens are the same circle.



So anyway, i just thought of another theory just for debate.

There is another theory of getting into her "fren zone".
They say if you dont make the initial steps right, meaning you dont make your intentions clear that you are not looking for frenship, then you might just end up in her "fren zone" and your stuck there for life.
Because she will treat you or see you as a good fren or a brother.
And no girl dates her own bro or good fren. (vry rare)


*the theory is just for debate but i still agree with your statement.

[KCisBad]

btw, just an update.

I finally tried the silence test as some of the bros have mentioned.

I didnt msg her for 24 hours already. (we use to msg on avg 2-3 msg in 1 hr for the whole day) That is around 50-75 msges.
But in the last 24 horus. 0 msges.

And my phone has been silent since then. (no sms from her)

Every night we always wish each other goodnight..

Last night i didnt. And she didnt either.

Hmmm so maybe it could just be that she was entertaining me all this while.

And when i stopped she stopped.

[-SBF-]

If you think she won't deserve it then spread out your love to other girl out there. There are many girl who want it. Believe me and soon you will get your love soon.;)

[KCisBad]

If you think she won't deserve it then spread out your love to other girl out there. There are many girl who want it. Believe me and soon you will get your love soon.;)

Thanks for the kind words bro.

[Toshiya]

The one who gave a shit lose the game.

Take it with a pinch of salt bro. More often than not, human mind work in a way that desire things that are not within their reach. Guys or girls, it all works the same.

and remember this, actions always prove why words mean nothing. ;)

[xpinkyx-moment]

btw, just an update.

I finally tried the silence test as some of the bros have mentioned.

I didnt msg her for 24 hours already. (we use to msg on avg 2-3 msg in 1 hr for the whole day) That is around 50-75 msges.
But in the last 24 horus. 0 msges.

And my phone has been silent since then. (no sms from her)

Every night we always wish each other goodnight..

Last night i didnt. And she didnt either.

Hmmm so maybe it could just be that she was entertaining me all this while.

And when i stopped she stopped.

hmmm .... haiz ... wait a few more days ?
maybe she waiting for u to text her first ... normally is u text her first ba ?

Anyway dun sad bro ..

[xpinkyx-moment]

The one who gave a shit lose the game.

Take it with a pinch of salt bro. More often than not, human mind work in a way that desire things that are not within their reach. Guys or girls, it all works the same.

and remember this, actions always prove why words mean nothing. ;)

true .. but texting also an action ba ? lolz .. depends on who start first .

[KCisBad]

The one who gave a shit lose the game.

Take it with a pinch of salt bro. More often than not, human mind work in a way that desire things that are not within their reach. Guys or girls, it all works the same.

and remember this, actions always prove why words mean nothing. ;)

Yea thats what i told someone recently.
But when your heart is at stake its a different ball game. lol.
But i agree with you.

Thanks for the wise words.

hmmm .... haiz ... wait a few more days ?
maybe she waiting for u to text her first ... normally is u text her first ba ?

Anyway dun sad bro ..

thanks for the comfort bro.

Yea normally i text her.

But she text me le!
As in i nv initiate anything.

She texted me.


But she just ask me out another day but is with the grp again. sian..

[xpinkyx-moment]

Yea thats what i told someone recently.
But when your heart is at stake its a different ball game. lol.
But i agree with you.

Thanks for the wise words.



thanks for the comfort bro.

Yea normally i text her.

But she text me le!
As in i nv initiate anything.

She texted me.


But she just ask me out another day but is with the grp again. sian..

Hahaha ~ Just Enjoy ba ..

*anyway Im sis here :D

[KCisBad]

Hahaha ~ Just Enjoy ba ..

*anyway Im sis here :D

NO WAY?! Serious?

Pls tell me more how a girl thinks ? hahaha

btw thanks sis! :D

[oxeso]

Hi again Ts bro, dropped by to c how's it going. Fr ur updates, IMHO she only wants u as
a friend,at least for now. Like wat i said in my previous post, u should diverse ur
emotional investments.Easier said than done, i know. But aft ur test n trials, d Answer is out n obvious, isn't it? Furthermore, by persisting, u risk pissing her off. Thus u guys can't even be friends,not to mention, Couple. May i suggest,put ur emotions aside, just stay as a friend n leave it fate since u have done ur part. Who knows wat d future holds?!
Just my 2 cents.. do excuse me if it's blunt. Gd luck,ya.:)

[KCisBad]

Hi again Ts bro, dropped by to c how's it going. Fr ur updates, IMHO she only wants u as
a friend,at least for now. Like wat i said in my previous post, u should diverse ur
emotional investments.Easier said than done, i know. But aft ur test n trials, d Answer is out n obvious, isn't it? Furthermore, by persisting, u risk pissing her off. Thus u guys can't even be friends,not to mention, Couple. May i suggest,put ur emotions aside, just stay as a friend n leave it fate since u have done ur part. Who knows wat d future holds?!
Just my 2 cents.. do excuse me if it's blunt. Gd luck,ya.:)

Hey bro.

No no not at all.
I appreciate your well wishes and opinions.

I came to that same conclusion. :)
I will treat her as a good fren for now.

Thanks again.
(btw your comments are not blunt, trust me ;))

[DegenerationX]

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring.
But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

WTF??!! Msg so frequently? Gals dun like guys who are too sticky type. U are a good guy in her opinion, but you will never be the one that she goes to bed with.

[Toshiya]

true .. but texting also an action ba ? lolz .. depends on who start first .

Yes it is, Sis. That's why her action proves why all the words from the text meant no shit...

Yea thats what i told someone recently.
But when your heart is at stake its a different ball game. lol.
But i agree with you.

Thanks for the wise words.



thanks for the comfort bro.

Yea normally i text her.

But she text me le!
As in i nv initiate anything.

She texted me.


But she just ask me out another day but is with the grp again. sian..

Main thing is keeping your self esteem intact and tell yourself she's just another girl whom you fell for. Have your stand even when you are chasing her. You know what they says, If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. Having a stand doesn't mean treating her like a douchebag, you can be a gentlemen and have a stand at the same time. I'm sure you get what i mean.

Best of luck, bro ;)

[Mr_don_juan]

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring. But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

That's because you are messaging too often. Perharps you should stop all contact with her, go dating with other girls before trying to ask her out again.

It's way lot faster to call someone so text only if you must. Don't be a pusstachio. if it's not worth writing out, don't sms it at all. So it is better if you use your masculine or some deep husky voice (if you had) to set up meetings and dates.

You have to accept that you may get a "no" as an answer, or an unconvincing yes, but let’s face it, if she’s not interested, waiting to see what happens only means postponing the confusion in you. But then you know you can always move on to other and better things which you are free again.

So listen up, if she likes you she will make a move on you so don't need to stop wondering around. :D

[Janet_W]

Sometimes girl wan attention

but 2 much oso no gd

2 little n we feel u dun care

[curiouslala]

The answer is she's not into you and she just want to play around.
Because if she do, she will accepted one of your meet up invitation, not rejecting all of it.
Maybe you're not just his criteria or you're already in her friendzone or admirezone, and she don't want to lose one of her admirer.
And when you started to giving up, she'll find you and get you hooked in her fingers again.

I think this kind of girl is really evil.
She don't want you, yet she keep you stringing along.
Then after she got the one whom she really likes, she'll say "I don't want to ruin our friendship"
Then you will sat in friendzone spot, feeling sad and disappointed.
By that time, you'll need long time to get over it or maybe just unable to get over it.

So, my advice would be stop messaging her.
It'll be hard at first but if you want to go out from this game, you should.
But if you don't, well just enjoy this feeling.
Hopefully its not to late.

[Janet_W]

I think jus dat someone more interesting came along.... dun tink so much. mani girls out there wat

[geordie07]

The answer is she's not into you and she just want to play around.
Because if she do, she will accepted one of your meet up invitation, not rejecting all of it.
Maybe you're not just his criteria or you're already in her friendzone or admirezone, and she don't want to lose one of her admirer.
And when you started to giving up, she'll find you and get you hooked in her fingers again.

I think this kind of girl is really evil.
She don't want you, yet she keep you stringing along.
Then after she got the one whom she really likes, she'll say "I don't want to ruin our friendship"
Then you will sat in friendzone spot, feeling sad and disappointed.
By that time, you'll need long time to get over it or maybe just unable to get over it.

So, my advice would be stop messaging her.
It'll be hard at first but if you want to go out from this game, you should.
But if you don't, well just enjoy this feeling.
Hopefully its not to late.

Agreed with this post especially about the admirezone part as she probably wants to keep you as reserve admirer if she bored or need fren company. Ever encountered you ask someone out and they keep saying they not free even for a few minutes catch up and then on their instragram and Facebook pictures of them going out everyday wine and dine? :) dont get string along man, its the worst. If the girl not interested shld just say or inform friendzone so everyone dont waste time

Only thing that won't be easy is to stop communicating. If u enjoy flirting with her and messaging her often, to suddenly stop will be very difficult isn't it

[Annabelle93]

Maybe she's not into you. Jus treating u like a bro or someone remain anonymous to chat with. Move on, u get ur princess one day. ^^ ;)

[kittymae]

The answer is she's not into you and she just want to play around.
Because if she do, she will accepted one of your meet up invitation, not rejecting all of it.
Maybe you're not just his criteria or you're already in her friendzone or admirezone, and she don't want to lose one of her admirer.
And when you started to giving up, she'll find you and get you hooked in her fingers again.

I think this kind of girl is really evil.
She don't want you, yet she keep you stringing along.
Then after she got the one whom she really likes, she'll say "I don't want to ruin our friendship"
Then you will sat in friendzone spot, feeling sad and disappointed.
By that time, you'll need long time to get over it or maybe just unable to get over it.

So, my advice would be stop messaging her.
It'll be hard at first but if you want to go out from this game, you should.
But if you don't, well just enjoy this feeling.
Hopefully its not to late.

Sis!!! U re-emerged!!!!:D

But I have to agree with u. From a female pov, if a girl is interested, she won't keep turning u down...
I don't think it's comfort level in a one-one outing but more of drawing the line.
She may text u frequently n all that but it might be her seeing u as a good fren or similar. Not necessarily in the romantic sense.
What's best is for u to treat it as purely platonic until she makes e move
Sometimes girls like that one....wanna seem hard to get.. Haha

[WarPig]

gals text chat, phone chat or go out with guys for many reasons for eg.
kill boredom
she's wants to know u better in terms of characters
she's sizing u up in terms of financials: where u bring her go for food, drive or dont drive, give her gifts on BDs or major PHs like x'mas or v'day.

the reasons she wont go out on a date with u is the reverse of upstairs.
the way u dress: women dont wanna go out with men who dresses like an uncle or caveman and then run into friends, colleagues or worse an ex on the streets.
your characters: women like men with charm n humor if they are going to look at them or talk with them for a long time they'd want to be entertained.

women enjoyed being pampered and any date in a mall for movies will certainly almost always precede with some shopping, a dinner in a restaurant and being sent home in a car. they hate slogging it out in a foodcourt or take a public transport.

then she'd want to know if u can take her for holidays regularly enough and no JB or batam dont count lol.

so guys rate a gals dating values based on looks n figure
gals rate guys based on characters n financials.

we are all in this rat race trying to impress and outdo each other until we find a husband/wife material and decides "ok we're in it for life now so lets be frugal as much as possible and save for our future".

You seem like a sensible agony aunt..... so maybe let's see if you have a solution for me for a little problem that came to me unknowingly.

A few months ago a young girl joined our company and was attached to my department. As she had no work experience I became her mentor to guide her along as we somehow clicked and got along very well although she is more than 15 years my junior. From routine office meals like breakfast and lunches we progressed to dinner dates and even went out on weekends / holidays..... and soon became FBs. All these while she would be visiting my home until last weekend when I went to her home for the 1st time. While looking through her photo albums, I got the shock of my life. She had numerous photos of my nephew and I was told they were an item during their poly days..... but they broke up when he entered NS.

I was deliberating on whether to let her know her ex- bf is my nephew but she solved that by telling me she already knew I was his uncle as he often talked about his "rich uncle" to her... (btw I am not really rich..... although I have a few properties in my name but they are actually held in trust for someone else).... and she herself came on to me willingly.

My nephew is still in NS and I had heard from my sister previously that he was very upset when his gf broke up with him.... I wonder how he will react if he finds out his ex-gf is now his uncle's FB?

I have to decide on a course of action soon so what would be your solution if you are in my shoes?

[pleasurehobby]

You seem like a sensible agony aunt..... so maybe let's see if you have a solution for me for a little problem that came to me unknowingly.

A few months ago a young girl joined our company and was attached to my department. As she had no work experience I became her mentor to guide her along as we somehow clicked and got along very well although she is more than 15 years my junior. From routine office meals like breakfast and lunches we progressed to dinner dates and even went out on weekends / holidays..... and soon became FBs. All these while she would be visiting my home until last weekend when I went to her home for the 1st time. While looking through her photo albums, I got the shock of my life. She had numerous photos of my nephew and I was told they were an item during their poly days..... but they broke up when he entered NS.

I was deliberating on whether to let her know her ex- bf is my nephew but she solved that by telling me she already knew I was his uncle as he often talked about his "rich uncle" to her... (btw I am not really rich..... although I have a few properties in my name but they are actually held in trust for someone else).... and she herself came on to me willingly.

My nephew is still in NS and I had heard from my sister previously that he was very upset when his gf broke up with him.... I wonder how he will react if he finds out his ex-gf is now his uncle's FB?

I have to decide on a course of action soon so what would be your solution if you are in my shoes?

Hi bro,

I am no aunt agony, but seems like you have quite an issue here. Here are my 2 cents worth.

When dealing with girl, my principals are simply:

1. All are EVIL unless proven - this means that any girl that I didn't put in much effort to get, or any girl that seems too easy to have gotten together with me, will be first deemed EVIL, unless proven. When you have some weath under your belt, its natural for girls to wanna flock to you. Its in them to smell and hunt for stablity in men. So what i would do, is to put them uner various situational test (something like Army), to test whether they have real feelings for you, or just your status/wealth. An e.g. is asking a common friend to accidentally leak news to her that you have some big financial proble, peharps the recent stock market is bad, lost a few 100k and looking for some temporary cash flow. Try to subtely bring up the subject to her, and see if she avoids you. Not very hard right?

2. Age of the girl: The age of the girl plays a big factor in what stage of life she is in now. Is she a recent graduate who is ambitiously looking to climb the ladder fast? is she still under 20s, looking for drama-like romantic cuddy cuddy relationship? is she over 30, feeling the social presure, and peharps is more venerable? The age though not absolutely true, CAN indeed tell a lot.

Mostly importantly, always keep your thinking clear. See from a bird eye view and things will show in much more clarity.

[ramadel]

I have to decide on a course of action soon so what would be your solution if you are in my shoes?

Invite your nephew for a threesome and then dump her when its done.
It's very obvious that she is a gold digger. :mad:

[JinRummy]

You seem like a sensible agony aunt..... so maybe let's see if you have a solution for me for a little problem that came to me unknowingly.

A few months ago a young girl joined our company and was attached to my department. As she had no work experience I became her mentor to guide her along as we somehow clicked and got along very well although she is more than 15 years my junior. From routine office meals like breakfast and lunches we progressed to dinner dates and even went out on weekends / holidays..... and soon became FBs. All these while she would be visiting my home until last weekend when I went to her home for the 1st time. While looking through her photo albums, I got the shock of my life. She had numerous photos of my nephew and I was told they were an item during their poly days..... but they broke up when he entered NS.

I was deliberating on whether to let her know her ex- bf is my nephew but she solved that by telling me she already knew I was his uncle as he often talked about his "rich uncle" to her... (btw I am not really rich..... although I have a few properties in my name but they are actually held in trust for someone else).... and she herself came on to me willingly.

My nephew is still in NS and I had heard from my sister previously that he was very upset when his gf broke up with him.... I wonder how he will react if he finds out his ex-gf is now his uncle's FB?

I have to decide on a course of action soon so what would be your solution if you are in my shoes?

I don't see any issue here as you did not know about her past when you paired up with her. Your nephew is a loser so don't need to bother about him as its your life. If both of you are in love with each other truly..... your nephew and the rest of the world can go fuck themselves as it is entirely a matter for just the 2 of you.

[Nsdselvlian]

Agreed with this post especially about the admirezone part as she probably wants to keep you as reserve admirer if she bored or need fren company. it

Well, u have to see what type of person she is then. No doubt that some gals are there for free transport, free food, free drinks then.

There are definitely people that is worth to keep as friends as well as the leeches to avoid.



My nephew is still in NS and I had heard from my sister previously that he was very upset when his gf broke up with him.... I wonder how he will react if he finds out his ex-gf is now his uncle's FB?

I have to decide on a course of action soon so what would be your solution if you are in my shoes?

So how long u want to keep your FB? It is just for fun and not even a serious relationship.

[hornie]

I think the real question is why the fuck are you messaging her 20-30 times a day? That is such a loser thing to do for a grown adult man.... The last time I did that was in JC...dont you have better things to do

[Hwei6969]

From Exp, you should cut the chase by asking her straight if she wants to be with you

If she want to be friend only, You are are useful spare tire whom she can chat and get help from, like unpaid free plumber. So CUT the wire, no point, waste of your time. If you find it a pity, it will still snap after you get married to someone who appreciates you more.

So again, cut the wire,

[pleasurehobby]

My personal opinion is that always keep your options open. There are more than one girl in the whole world. When we actively meet more girls and interacitons, we will find that actually one girl doesnt mean much. Often, aour desperation makes conjur extreme thoughts.

I recommend reading some articles from this site. http://www.girlschase.com/

I am sure you will be able to think with more clarify after.

sincerely,
J

[tshirt]

The only way for you to progress from here is to turn the tables around.

Stop messaging her for 1 week. Pretend you went outstation. See if she sms you.

Few years ago, I was chasing this very hot and pretty korean girl. She has face like Song Hye Kyo, blonde hair, tall, slim, B cup boobs, high class look. I kept calling her every 2 days, also hard to get her out. Then one day, I just stopped contacting her. After 3 weeks, one day suddenly I got a miscall from her. I still didn't care to return her call, because maybe she pressed wrong number.

Then at night, she calls me again! Her words are "Hey, what happened to you?? Why didn't you call me for SO LONG?? I have so many things to tell you!"
If this info is good for you, please up me ok?

:D

[tiredstrides]

Could be keeping her options open, not ready for relationship....

[nehnehhh]

Could be keeping her options open, not ready for relationship....

agree with this. so at the mean time, just lead your live normally and can show that you are also keeping your options open. :)