Thailand Gf.Confusing???

[BeDoK85]

About 1 month Ago, i get to know this girl from The Freelance Line.It was through an introduction from An OKT.(I will not review the name of this gal and the name of the OKT)We are of the same age.When i met this gal, she left only about 5 days in Singapore.I try to cut short on the story.The usually visiting of FL i will not post details on it.But on that day, i bring her out along Orchard Rd to take a walk.we click even through we got language barrier.We even hold each other hands along the way.Actually I hold her hands when we are walking out of the hotel room.Treated each other like GF & BF.She told me i look like gal and she feel comfortable with me.Our conversation was short and awkward(her English not so good, sometimes i need to listen 2 times)Back in the hotel, she told me she have alittle feeling over me.i teased her by asking is it she like me,she smile and just hug me.what i was shock that she ask me to spend the night with her that day without sex.I agreed, exchanging Hp number and left the hotel around midnoon(Arrive in early afternoon).

Midnight, i receive her sms and rush to the hotel.We never have sex that night.i acted like a BF.Just cuddling and fondle her to sleep.i know that she must be tired from the "Clients".I hug her from behind and allow my hand to be her pillow.Actually this was my 1st time sleeping with a Gal(In a sexy lingerie!In the middle of the night She was NAKED!).The feeling quite nice and relaxing although i got some numbs for being a "pillow".During the night,i was enjoy observing her body then suddenly She hold my the other hand and place it on her left breast which was near to the heart."Something" started in my heart.From that moment onwards, i starts to have some feeling for her.The feeling of her doing this was between Lust and Love for me,To me this mean that she love me alot.i enjoy this moment and hope this would last forever.In the morning, i gave her a massage on the back. Then she popped up a question "You Love XXX" (XXX is her name).At this time, i nod my head and say i really love her.I told not to work under that OKT again and she cried.Guess might be motivated by what i had said.then i hug her.After that she take shower and i watch the news.Together we left the hotel hands in hands to the 7-11 before i take a MRT home.During evening she call and ask me to come the second night.This time round, i slept using her hand as the pillow.The 3th 4th night she tell me she cannot allow me to sleep overnight as her client book her overnight.5th day morning she went back Thailand.I did not go to the airport as she don want to see me(Don know why she don want to see me???).

2 days later i receive a Call.The Number starting with +66(international call from Thailand,Singapore is +65).Actually i thought it was a Fling. But she call back and told me she Miss me alot.We Exchanging SMSs From that day onwards.Everynight or Morning, i will send her a Good Night or morning messages.I also told her that i will look for her in Thailand and she even show my picture to her dad and mum(only child in the family).I bought 1 Hello! card and call her sometimes.She told me she got 4 years of University life and told me to wait for her.After this 4 years, she coming to Singapore and work,Not FL again.She studying clothes design.I remind her not to work under that OKT again either in Singapore or Thailand.

A Couple of weeks back, she told me she be busy helping her dad for 1 week and will not replying my SMSs.But i still send her Everyday without failures even though i did not get any reply.She reply once and that it.I did not get her SMSs after the 1 week and did not receive recently.I told her i be coming to Thailand on 15th april to 29th april.

AFTHERMATH
Maybe i Longtime don have a GF that why i will fall for this gal.Seriously this gal quite Good Looking.Many of my friends say that this is inflaturation which mean since i don have a GF why Don i accept her.But to tell you what i think i really fall for this gal to the extend of looking for her in Thailand Alone!All my friends don agreed to me to look for her cause they think i still don know that girl quite well, I be going alone,not going to be safe and scare of the Thailand Gong Tao.I also think of paying for her School Fees of S$1k per year and think that i going to send about S$200 to her everymonth.The reason she came to Singapore to become FL is the School Fees.i only met her in 2 days and know her for weeks.But i know that she a Filial Child.Before she return to Thailand, she bought an Expensive watches for her Dad and Mum.That make me think that she not a bad Gal anyway.But my feeling for her is real.i really Fall for her.Recently i Did not get her SMSs and she never call me.Because of some school problems,I cannot attend the flight on 15th april.The air ticket Cost me $340! Bought from tiger airways.Now i try not to be soft-hearted to call or sms her now.I will wait for her to call or sms me before i make a decision whether i am going to Thailand.I also felt Confused and i really don have a Guranteed on this relationship.Oftenly i thinking that if she met someone better then me in Thailand or something happen(Few weeks back there a bombing in the southern part of Thailand,She staying in Chiang Rai, nothern part of Thailand).Sometimes i quite lonely and thinking of her but this kind of long distance relationship really very lonely.She did not send SMSs and call me recenty.This make me more desperate to know what happen to her.Confusing is the words to describe my situation now.I did put in effort to last this Relationship and hope she do so...................

[Sarissa]

Yah...really confusing... :rolleyes:

[siamcutey]

Welcome to the TIRAK Club. hahahahahaha. You looking for problems?

As for why she don't let you send her to airport is not because she scared the OKT. What can the OKT do? She only FL mah. Its because someone else with her at the airport lah. And who is the person? I don't know. Definitely more important than you.

And as for help father cannot reply sms. Please, this is a very cock reason. And show your photo to her father and mother? How you know? You got eyes to see in thailand?


SC

[Cheri_Popper]

Be wary of the KC Trap!

[TenderLoin]

Bro, I know this is really hard but forget about her. Your feelings for her came about becoz of the moments of tenderness. Pls you hardly know her... these people have more experience even more than you, me and they are so streetwise they get their way most times with naive people. Jus becareful here, in the end you may loose money and also hurt badly. You've been warned.

[magicafe]

I suppose your Gf to be might be taking advantage of u to accompany her.
From my understanding, most thai gal are supertitious and afraid of ghost.
since u are like CHA BO, you're safer than others. having u to sleep with her will give her a peaceful rest and sleep. better forget her.

[BeDoK85]

Thank People About the reply.Actually your Reply is just the same as my friends reply.Maybe I just young and naive.Both of us 85 only.But what i heard from your things is quite true.On that night we really like GF and BF.i Don think i Look like gal makes me ward off those evil spirt.i Think Zhong Gui would be a better Candidate.I also think that looking for a Company for the night might be True.Actually when she going back right?She call me and i told her i was working the night before.As i working Parttime in a hotel Line,I Returning Home As late as 3am.Think she don want to Bother me also Cause her Flight that Day was 9am must reach airport in 7am.
Guess that her Life might be more interesting then me???When she Was in Thailand calling me,She also ask me not to try any more FL.Actually when she bought Those expensive watches for her Dad And Mum,I really don have guards on her character.As i am a filial Son too.About Streetwise,I think that she might not be because in that case,why would she call me after she left Singapore?Calling me to waste money?From Thailand to call to Singapore think quite expensive also
Actually i got bad exprience then this before.THink i aready got the worst hurt from my Life that why i longtime no GF aready.If this did not continue, Guess the inpact of the damage not too Strong.
By the way i will just keep on waiting for her call and sms before may.She told me her University starts at may so if she want me to go Thailand look for her must before May.I will be Enlisted in the School of Commando on 10th of June 2005.

[Xtremist]

I also think of paying for her School Fees of S$1k per year and think that i going to send about S$200 to her everymonth.The reason she came to Singapore to become FL is the School Fees.i only met her in 2 days and know her for weeks.But i know that she a Filial Child.Before she return to Thailand, she bought an Expensive watches for her Dad and Mum.

Pardon me... u want to pay for her school fees ? I know of a Singapore guy who gives his "gf" in thailand thousands of sing dollars for a minor operation. That operation turns out to be cesarean for her baby with another thai guy. How abt that huh ? Don't just take in whatever she says !

[dennisma]

Oh no...other sad story ,but u know what ? i have hear this story many time in my younger day when some of my friends oso kanna this type of problem. they oso went to thailand to look for they'r "girlfriend" ,but in the end ? SAME LOR ,kanna cheated. i am not trying to offend u brudder but pls forget her becos the result will be the same. U r only lonely brudder, that y u will think like that . her this type of tricks (you love XXX),our sillypore girls oso know. which sillypore girls dun know how to buy thing for their parents ?? Think brudder ,if u were ur father what would u think if ur son is having this problem ?


P.S I am sorry if i offended any of the brothers here .

[Cheri_Popper]

The ball is now in the Thread Starter's court. Its up to him to clear up his own confusion. Don't let her take your love for her as a sign of weakness for her to explore!

[Khoratian]

.... sounds like a typical case of cheating your feelings. Some of my friends have already kena this kind of senario b4. However, it does not happen here.. it happen in Thailand when they got to know the 'fishtank' or ktv girls there. Yours may not be one of those but a 'Uni' student but seriously the pattern is almost 90% sama sama to what my friends encounter.

Luckily lah, most of them dun fall for it, got 1,2 did. 1 even manage to 'stay' in love for 2 years before finding out all the money he gave actually went to her 'enjoyment' and unknown reasons. We figure out it's for another guy in Thai "xiao bai lian' who's quite yandao. He did visit her 3,4 times a year and everything is so 'lovers' feeling. Her give money for her to quit her KTV job, then she still works secretly, money all goes to.. sigh..i pity my friend actually.

- Calls in Thai with the gal can talk to like their BF on line(can know one if you know what i mean from your coll in your company, that special look) They'll glance at you now and then when they talk(check your reaction and have you sensed it)

- Refuse some act with funny, strange or no reasons. Like in your case, dun want to see you in airport even for the last time. For my case, one girl once in Thai she actually refuse to french with me while everything else can and claims to be my gf. lol

- MIA excuse/no excuse but for reason you cannot understand why those period cannot even talk on phone. My guess is doing or with someone best not to be interrupt by you.

Got few more signs which can make you suspicious one lah, lazy to think and type, me quit playing with feeling so long leow hehehe sianz leow, now pefer pay and bonk. more cheaper kekekeke

Even me, i've met and known few girls there who try this trick. hehehe they can really... i wouldn't say the word act coz i think the way they play is they can really shift their feeling to you for that few moments but they can shift it away very fast when they like it. They can even bring me and show to all her friend and proudly says I'm her BF and next moment (few days) i can see her hugging a yandao guy's on his bike. Of course i also dun get real serious with so many lessons.. i just treat them as 'rental love' and move on once i get sick of it.

Got once got to meet those real nice girl lah, they can really get serious one but you know it when you see and i think it's best for me to steer clear of them to hurt them.

[Terminator1979]

They would always have some sad stories to win you over with. Once you fall for it, you will be emtionally and finacially drained

[peterfish]

Confusing is the words to describe my situation now.I did put in effort to last this Relationship and hope she do so...................
Don't need to be confused. Just go and look for her. What we all said here about her being a con artist or whatever, I am sure you will not listen so I will not say it. Just go and soon you will find out the truth. Otherwise you don't go, you sure won't "die heart".

By the way, how old are you? Are you 20 based on your nick Bedok85?

[OceanEleven]

This is always the case, young, single and have the time to spare, one would easily fall into such traps. Especially when someone treat you in a sweet and caring manner, the faster you will fall for her. This is common and quite easy to understand. No need to ponder too much, all you need is to go see her in Thailand, spend a few days with her over a weekend, if she is decent, signs will tell. Else, you will sense if she tell you reasons and excuses etc. ;)

[Siam_Bu]

Sigh. I use to hang in Thai Disco, this sittutation ive seen alot, never talk about real feeling la bro, we spend money to FL, Disco is to get happy in return not all this shit la. Dont spend money to buy trouble, problem & Stress. This is only a part time lover :)

[free]

This is always the case, young, single and have the time to spare, one would easily fall into such traps. Especially when someone treat you in a sweet and caring manner, the faster you will fall for her. This is common and quite easy to understand. No need to ponder too much, all you need is to go see her in Thailand, spend a few days with her over a weekend, if she is decent, signs will tell. Else, you will sense if she tell you reasons and excuses etc. ;)Fully agree. Open eyes & ears big big, see how she interacts with friends around her - real friends and party friends. Then face the situation squarely in the face, and ask your gut feel - it will know. Speculation is useless and only fuels hopeless hopes or senseless pains. Unfortunately, a meaningful r/s with a TG is gonna require that u speak a fair bit of thai (and even understand parts of her dialects).

One thing for sure, it's gonna be hard on u if you have no idea what she is saying to her friends, and since they are thais u cannot blame them for speaking thai amongst themselves, cos it must surely involve ppl around her.

Next, let's assume you know thai. If she knows u can understand thai, and she has a particular dialect (eg pasar neur) and chooses to speak with her friends generally in Thai and switches to her dialect when she wants to tell them something u are not supposed to know or they tell her (cos she knows u dun know), alarm bells should ring loud and clear. She's got some things to hide from you.

But if she speaks to them in dialect most of the time when they are together (consistent for these particular friends), u can relax better. It's like some of us often ending speaking in Hokkien when we meet (for many SG Chinese). That's due to habits and it's ok. If you can see she is trying hard not to break into dialect, appreciate it for old habits die hard. She is trying to be greng jai. And if she starts to teach you her dialects so that u can understand some of what they are saying, you are far better off, and chances are you are indeed someone special to her.

The above has been something I had observed very consistently, It is a sort a pre-qualification "test" for me to consider if the TG is worth getting to know better. Unfortunately, it does require time, effort and $$. You are not going to achieve it in one single trip, so better have other good reasons for going often.

[oxilary]

Body language can tell alot of things if u noe how to interpret and read :D

[ThaiPolice]

I also think of paying for her School Fees of S$1k per year and think that i going to send about S$200 to her everymonth.The reason she came to Singapore to become FL is the School Fees.i only met her in 2 days and know her for weeks.


I think you had hypnotized by her words. Firstly if she's from Chiang Rai, then there's no way she will be studying fashion design cos in Chaing Rai, there are only 2 uni which Chiang Rai rajabat technical college which is specialised in industry studies and Mah Fah Luang University which has no course teaching the specified course. And as for the school fees wise, if she's studying fashion design, definately it will cost more than Sg$1k to enrol for the cost. Why do i know that because my wife teaches in Mah Fah Luang university. I'm sure that the $ will go somewhere else so it's up to u whether u want to be the carrothead.And please don't be foolish enough to entangle into a r/s which there's no ending, anyway u are going to the army soon no point buying a 1 way ticket with no return. If you want, I suggest that you go and look for her and fuck 1 last time and forget about it. The school of commando will teach u how to be a better man. The choice is up to u!

Break it or Buy it!

[sammyhunk]

fuck her one last night? i don't think she will even wan to let him fuck her loh... bro... play with small head think with big head!!! don't be fooled by her words... don worry when u get into SOC you'll have no energy to think of her...

[BeDoK85]

Woh Guys Got to Thank Anyway for those comments on her.Any Because of the eager and Confusing Stats,I decided to SMS her today and she SMS back to call her.I call her on the Hello Card and she Receive.i was aciting quiet and pretend that i have no topic to chat about then she ask whether i was angry.I say no and she gave me excuses as she was busy sewing her curtains for her family.i told her about the Flight Ticket i bought and she told me that she reminded me to call her and i Did not.(Maybe Due to language barrier i don know).Anyway the Ticket Gone case aready i not so bother about it and i told her when she entering the School, she reply on 23th May.As still got time, i decided to try again to ask her can i go look for her.She reply said that she very busy helping her family business and scare she did not have the time to company me for fun.I told her that i don mind helping her father as i want to see her and i can sacrifice the fun.I was told that her Meals there mostly spicy and whether i can accept.I just Agreed with it althought i seldom eat spicy food.She say She think about it and gave me a reply as soon as possible.i also told her to gave me the reply ASAP as i can have the ticket Cheaper if i Bought early.

I don think i am hypnotized by her words.She just gave me the "feelings" i cannot describe and these "feelings" can only get by some "special" people from the pass.If your wife told you those things was true then i had to take caution on that.i definetlywill buy a return ticket and will return before 10th of June 2005

I don have a single idea of about the Thai Language(maybe only sawaditka)I don even know the meaning of sawaditka.She know how to listen to cantones.I don speak cantones either.As most Singaporean, i can handle hokkien only.I am a hainanese So probably i can only handle these 2 dialect languages.From her body langauge, i guess she giving me all those tenders and surprising the GFs can give.Giving me surprise hugs and Cuddling me to sleep.I still remember she scratching my backon the second night when i was Sleeping.Anyway thank OceanEleven For the advice.it was MeaningFull

About Siam_Bu, i think that i want to settle down aready.I think spend too much on FL aready.My friends all complain that if i got the money to spend don go for FL donate to them.hahhaha.

Yes i was born in the year of 85 and so does she.She Does not have any sad story to tell me.The idea of paying her school fees is from me.I scare her returning to the Parttime occupation of becoming an FL again, so i was gave her this idea.About the S$200 per month also my idea.PLEASE PEOPLE DON GET IT WRONG.SHE NEVER ASK ME FOR MONEY.I JUST WANT TO PREVENT HER RETURNING TO THE FL AGAIN.Once during a walk along Orchard Rd , i offer to buy A SK jewellery for her but she say expensive and reject it.At this point of time i Emotionally involve in this part of my life.

About Khoratian,Thank for the advices.I think i need to take precaution on that.Actually from the past GF,i don heard them asking whether i like her or not.THe past exprience was hurtful and i don want to talk about it.The whether i like her things i heard from was some female friends from the School and Working place.They just trying to "xian" me but in the end i got no feelings for them and reject 1 by 1.

Probably, i will talk to her again.This time i will "pressurized" her that i want to see her in Chiang Rai.i will continue this Thread once i got back from Thailand.but i would not be leaving so soon.This is my First time overboard and going to stay for about 1-2 weeks.Anyway can you people suggest how long would i be staying there.If i going to stay over 14 weeks, i need to apply some kind of VISA things right?I heard that i going to be enlisted soon and i would not be able to leave Singapore for the time being.Is it true?I also heard that i need to give some reason or document to the CMPB or the custom.but i definetly be back home in Singapore before 10th june 2005 for the enlistment.

[Chana Raka Chai]

Bro, you might try reading Private Dancer, you remind me of the fella in the story.

Hey, reading it might just "wake" you up from being too naive.

The girl's not the one lying to you mate, you're lying to yourself.

That's what I think.

:cool:

[Khoratian]

I think you're like my friend now at that state whereby, although you can sense and see the thorns, but the look and smell of the beautiful rose will make you believe you can grab it w/o hurting yourself.

My suggestion is since she dun have any time to accompany you, you can still go there for a 'holiday'. Well dun spent too much time thinking how the relation will or will not work, just try to know her and her 'family' if she allows. I guess even if you're only 20, you must be pretty well to do to even think of giving her money and always going for FL. Dun bring too much money too, just good enough for the duration and maybe some 'last minute emergency useage' like i dunno.. a credit card or something.

It would be BEST if you can find a friend or 2 to accompany you. Otherwise, she so busy, you're gonna find hard time killing time. Also more fun lah and kept you away from thinking a lot.

I think 2 weeks should be enough and no need visa.

Work out or not, hope it's a experience for you and try not to get too involved f it turns out bad. Everyone need to go through this phase hehehe. GL

[free]

This is my First time overboard and going to stay for about 1-2 weeks.Anyway can you people suggest how long would i be staying there.If i going to stay over 14 weeks, i need to apply some kind of VISA things right?I heard that i going to be enlisted soon and i would not be able to leave Singapore for the time being.Is it true?I also heard that i need to give some reason or document to the CMPB or the custom.but i definetly be back home in Singapore before 10th june 2005 for the enlistment.
If you are going to spend time together (that includes helping her with what she is doing), 2 weeks is going to be great. But if not, u are going to get very bored, unless u rent a car from CR airport. If need contact (affiliated to National), pm me (-maybe can get better rate if use my name - but no promises, though she has given discount to a friend of mine). Even then, still probably need a guide. Worse case, cut short the CR Trip and go BKK and enjopy urself.

I wish you well and may this trip turn out to be what you hope for.

BTW, u still got a bit of time to learn some thai & give her a surprise. Think u should able to afford this: Thai for Beginners: PC Software version (http://www.thaihypermarket.com/books/index.html?target=p_239.html&lang=en-us). This is a very good system and I benefited greatly from the book version (s/w version not available when started. The vocals should help u pronounce properly. And if you have a Palm PDA (OS3.5 and above), consider this Thai-English English-Thai Dictionary for Palm with Search-by-Sound™ (http://word-in-the-hand.com/). I have been using it everyday since I bought it in August 2003 - it's that useful.

[BeDoK85]

Well Thank Free for all these.I try my best to learn even though i got a D for my French Language.I don have a Driving lesson.Maybe i can Drive a motor car.Stuck at Lesson 5 In CDC(Comfort Driving center)

[ruhua]

Confusing is the words to describe my situation now.I did put in effort to last this Relationship and hope she do so...................

Hahaha so many nights of free fucks or rabba rabba still can confuse? I'm enjoying this. :D

[ruhua]

Actually from the past GF,i don heard them asking whether i like her or not.THe past exprience was hurtful and i don want to talk about it.The whether i like her things i heard from was some female friends from the School and Working place.They just trying to "xian" me but in the end i got no feelings for them and reject 1 by 1.

Probably, i will talk to her again.This time i will "pressurized" her that i want to see her in Chiang Rai.i will continue this Thread once i got back from Thailand.but i would not be leaving so soon.This is my First time overboard and going to stay for about 1-2 weeks.Anyway can you people suggest how long would i be staying there.If i going to stay over 14 weeks, i need to apply some kind of VISA things right?I heard that i going to be enlisted soon and i would not be able to leave Singapore for the time being.Is it true?I also heard that i need to give some reason or document to the CMPB or the custom.but i definetly be back home in Singapore before 10th june 2005 for the enlistment.

Walan you're another god's gift to women. :)

I'm not playing English teacher here. First of all for a 20 year old Singaporean your English is not up to the GCE 'O' Level standard. Maybe you flung or you're some Ah Lau writing a story.

Yes for extending visa more than 14 days. Please go to Poseidon at Ratchada Soi 17 in Bangkok. Pay 2000B and you'll get your extension chop. Alternatively if you know how to research for info. Browse http://www.miw.com.sg/ for NS matters.

BTW if you've bought the air tickets and decided not to go BKK for the second time. Please contact me. I'd be glad to takeover your tickets for a reasonable price. :D

[ruhua]

I think 2 weeks should be enough and no need visa.

Singapore passport holders get 29 days automatically.

[Bangkok Master]

Hahaha so many nights of free fucks or rabba rabba still can confuse? I'm enjoying this. :D


I think he's not confused but cunt-fused.....keke

Btw if you're serious about going there for 2 weeks, please prepare yourself mentally cos I'm sure that you will encounter more than you could expect. It is not like fairy tale on television series where everything will come to a good end. I think you shouldn't spend the whole 2 weeks in Chiang Rai cos if you do that, I'm sure you will spend all your hard earned dollars on her. Unless you want to be into sponsorship, dun be naive, just make sure that you're always happy during the holiday cos it's you who deserve it not her!

Lastly just a word of caution, over indulgence of thai girls will make your life go hay-wire, so handle with care, there's no need to sponsor her course or monthly allowance cos you barely know her. If you feel paisay, just remiburse her with a small sum of baht before you leave.

[microstar]

If i going to stay over 14 weeks, i need to apply some kind of VISA things right?

1. The passport stamp by Thai airport immigration 4 week. ( example 20 Mar 2005 to 18 Apr 2005.

2. Hotel can try " Wang Come " ( 1200 Baht per night = $50.00 Sing Dollars + Breakfast ). Opposite the hotel across the road is pizza company plus bus station
plus Night Bazaar. There is airpost taxi to the town and hotel.

3. Chiang Rai had travel agency handle tours to Golden Triangle.

4. "Tourism Authority of Thailland' Singapore Office : Royal Thai Embassy. 370 Orchard Rd. S238870.

5. "Tourism Authority of Thailland' Chiang Rai : 448/16 Singhachau Rd. Amphoe Muang. Chiang Rai 57000. Tel: 66-5371-7433, 66-53744674-5.

[free]

1. The passport stamp by Thai airport immigration 4 week. ( example 20 Mar 2005 to 18 Apr 2005.

2. Hotel can try " Wang Come " ( 1200 Baht per night = $50.00 Sing Dollars + Breakfast ). Opposite the hotel across the road is pizza company plus bus station
plus Night Bazaar. There is airpost taxi to the town and hotel.

3. Chiang Rai had travel agency handle tours to Golden Triangle.

4. "Tourism Authority of Thailland' Singapore Office : Royal Thai Embassy. 370 Orchard Rd. S238870.

5. "Tourism Authority of Thailland' Chiang Rai : 448/16 Singhachau Rd. Amphoe Muang. Chiang Rai 57000. Tel: 66-5371-7433, 66-53744674-5.
If you are going to stay any where near the airport or the Rajabaht University (Bandu area), there is a hotel just outside the entrance of the University. Actually it is a Uni student hostel cum hotel (Ma Nee Come Hotel). 350B/day and next to it is a resort hotel (name Faa Sen Come or something like that) @ 700baht. Old but rather romantic. Only problem with this one is no telephone inside the room (dun ask me why). Stay there once but normally stay in Ma Nee Come cos I know the lady boss well (like my Pi Sao). Of course if she is not near Bandu, then forget these suggestions. Bandu is the "town" nearest the airport and on the way to Mesai (northwards). The city is on the other side of Bandu (sounthwards).

Bedok85, If u need contact for MaaNee Come, can pm me ok?

[microstar]

If i going to stay over 14 weeks, i need to apply some kind of VISA things right?I

6. Air line flying from Bangkok to Chiang Rai. 1. AirAsia. 2. Orient-Thai. 3. Thai Airway.

7. < Rajabhat ChiangRai University.> Rajabhat Inn Tel:0-5377-6010. Sri ChiangRai Resort Tel:0-53703651.

8. Get a 'one-two-call' Thailand prepaid sim card. Two handphone is better. One for singapore line <autoroam>. Another for thai prepaid sim card. easy to call thailand phone and for other people in thai to call you.

9. Get map and airline information before going Chiang Rai.

10. There is a bus at the Chiang Rai bus station ( VIP bus 26 seater = 216 Bhat )
Going from Chiang Rai to Chiang Mai.

[BeDoK85]

Anyway Thank you People for the Contacts and information.ya I fail my O Level English.Require the second time to pass.But never mind the highest qualification i got now is Going to be Diploma in the next few months.If i going to look for her i will make sure i take down everything from here.i be staying in her place,so i don need any hotel or transportation.

Something Cockup between her and me on Sunday.Chat with her and going to Ask her When can i go to Chiang Rai and find her.The reply was that she say she can go to Singapore nextweek.So curious and ask her she got money?Then she say somone gave her.I ask who was it and she reply someone in Singapore gave her money to Pay for the School fees.Guess might be 1 of her Client (Maybe you are reading now too....) was abit too low........told her that she must use the money to pay for her school fees and i on a Holiday so i want to go her place there.Talk about a short while and ended the call.

Was feeling Low while writing this...............

[Khoratian]

.. dunno you low simi? answer is so obvious. forget it and move on....

[mahalosux]

tis is exactly a mirror reflection of myself in my early stage of commercial sex... tat time me was naive oso..

how bleak the situation was actually.. he can always percieve everything to be pessimistic...

advice to Bedok85.. this gal is thinking of all sort of damn excuses to prevent u to go Changrai to look for her... come on lah.. where got people use 'spicy food' as an excuse.. all r craps lah...most likely she dun wan u to mit up wif her husband/bf in thailand

somemore got a bigger 'money tree' in s'pore to support her to come s'pore/ study in thailand.. she wun b bother about u lah...

reason she obj your offer in buying SK jewellery.. guess she dun give a damn.. minimal, they oso pref the quality of Lee Hwa/ Soo Kee std....

reason buying exp watches for parents.. so tat parents can show off their branded watches in front of their fellow villages...

anyway i guess.. wat people say here, u oso wun bother much.. cos u hv 'make up ur mind' to marry her (amazingly, being physically in contact for few days can lead to such impt decision)... jus wish u all the luck in the world (u really need it)... ;)

[free]

reason buying exp watches for parents.. so tat parents can show off their branded watches in front of their fellow villages...
This is a point in case. If the gal asked for something for her parents to show off, be very very careful. There could just be a deep black hole in front of you, even if you dun see it now.

A long time ago, I bought a cheap $100 Seiko watch for my ex' father. She is my ex today cos I made the decision to be with another (and I am happy), cos I am too impatient for her to finish her uni, work for a while before she is ready.

Instead of asking for something expensive and ostentatious, she told me her dad is old & will not be used to fashion and since he doesn't have a watch, anything usable is good enough, tho preferably water-resistant since he often works in the rain (farmer).

Ended up choosing an old fashion looking automtic (no quartz) that dun need battery, like what my own dad had while he was still around.

[Sure2C]

Bro BeDoK85, I think it is not the right time for u to think of settling down or commit anything on the BGR era.

I think, currently, u cant even start/feed ur family, if u get married now, w/o ur parent's support. So, y waste so much unnecessary $$$/time/brain juice to get urself into tis type of trouble?

Go for ur NS first, find a stable job after ur NS. I'm very sure, by tat time, ur thinking is much matured to decide for ur future.

It's still a long way ahead of u (u r oni 20 now). Takecare Bro, wish u hv a bright future!!

[jackylee]

I'm not saying all the replies previous brothers gave are useless. You want to know the truth bro bedok85? I'll tell you how..

1. You see if you can try to 'get' her address from her when chatting with her on phone.. chinese call it 'tao' her words.

2. Fly to thailand.. BE PREPARED IN YOUR MIND FIRST THAT YOU MIGHT BE FLYING BACK IN A DIFFERENT MOOD, maybe sad or happy. Just treat it as a holiday is good.. :D and maybe get a friend to go with you.. maybe she really cheat you.. got u beaten up .. or u too sad ..a friend is gonna help alot.

3. Let her know or don't let her know your be going there and when.. if you want to let her know... u might want to try flying there ealier than the date you told.. if you know her address (important) ..check and spy around her house.. see who she mixes.. etc.

4. HIRE A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR ONCE YOUR IN THAILAND. It seems like money is not a big issue to you.. this may help you VERY MUCH.. and you will know what type of girl she is.

I recommend note 4.

Yes, i agree.. this girl seemed weird in her actions. She seemed reluctant wanting you to find her in Thailand.. and it's better to find her in Thailand then for her to find you in SG again.. i can say if she come to SG again.. your likely to be hooked on her already. People who are hypnotised does not know they are!

It does not make sense at all not being able to reply you even she's busy.. can't even spare 20 seconds or 10 seconds to sms a 'I love you dear..' SMS if she really loves you?

If all is well... try the r/s out for 1 year or more.. and marry her over to SG.. this way you can secure her.. but only if you really loves her.

About the SK jewellery.. have it been in your rational mind that she might be putting a bait for a bigger fish? I mean... she might be eyeing your SG citizen ship! ..whats a jewellery costing say 3k.. compared to a lifestyle better so many times than Thailand? And her family also would be taken care by you! It's worth more than 3k... i can say she does know how to use/relate sex to lure you! Your confused with sex and love..

I've bad bad encounters with girls.. not money side but feelings.. so i wish you all the luck brother! :)

Jackylee.

[sl135831]

How much for a private investigator in BKK, appreciate if someone could answer or give some tips.

thanks man

[BeDoK85]

Thank You People For all the advice and help.It been awhile that i post a reply.Let me just tell you people what is happening to the both of us.

Around the end of April,i cannot resist myself anymore.I went to call her atnight.When she pick up the phone, both of us have nothing to say.She ask me whether i am angry at her.i reply no.i told her i love her and miss her alot and was busy working throughout 2 weeks.Then i remind her that she told me she was coming to Singapore.She gave me the excuse that she bought her family for a holiday in phuket and decided not to continue to study.Guess the money the samster gave her was spend on the holiday.Since she was not studying anymore i ask her whether i can go to chiangrai to stay with her for 1 week before i enlisting.She say that her parents would mind that me since the both of her were not married and other people would say something about the family.The family is very tradition.I told her i can stay in the hotel but the hotel is far from her place and she got to work everyday by helping her parents sewing the curtains.She also question me that if i love her i should call her regularly.She promised me that after i finish my NS (2years), she would be saving the money at the same time and go to Singapore and find me.But This time she want me to marry her.I really Love her alot and agreed to what she say.After that day, i send her a Goodnight and Goodmorning SMS-s everyday without failed.

After this Talk,i feel that i LOVE her even more.Now that i have not start my career i also want to buy a bigger flat to accomodate my family and my Thailand Gf.I also ask my parents consent that whether i can marry a Thailand Lady.They agreed.I will try to save up the money from NS and marry her.Although i will not hold a grand ceremony but i guess she don mind either.

There are some problems i need to consider.If she really staying in Singapore,i scare that she might not be able to click with the society.Singapore is fast pace,Language barrier and those samsters who know her.

[CPTMiller]

Hi Bedok85 pal.

Your posting and many samsters bros posting here.
Even when many people give you negative comment on your case.
It seems you are very calm in your reply to them.
I am sure a person who is feeling lost in such a unique case.
He will not be as calm as you.
I am puzzled.
Anyway if your story is real.
I hope you all the best and good luck.

Thank You People For all the advice and help.It been awhile that i post a reply.Let me just tell you people what is happening to the both of us.

Around the end of April,i cannot resist myself anymore.I went to call her atnight.When she pick up the phone, both of us have nothing to say.She ask me whether i am angry at her.i reply no.i told her i love her and miss her alot and was busy working throughout 2 weeks.Then i remind her that she told me she was coming to Singapore.She gave me the excuse that she bought her family for a holiday in phuket and decided not to continue to study.Guess the money the samster gave her was spend on the holiday.Since she was not studying anymore i ask her whether i can go to chiangrai to stay with her for 1 week before i enlisting.She say that her parents would mind that me since the both of her were not married and other people would say something about the family.The family is very tradition.I told her i can stay in the hotel but the hotel is far from her place and she got to work everyday by helping her parents sewing the curtains.She also question me that if i love her i should call her regularly.She promised me that after i finish my NS (2years), she would be saving the money at the same time and go to Singapore and find me.But This time she want me to marry her.I really Love her alot and agreed to what she say.After that day, i send her a Goodnight and Goodmorning SMS-s everyday without failed.

After this Talk,i feel that i LOVE her even more.Now that i have not start my career i also want to buy a bigger flat to accomodate my family and my Thailand Gf.I also ask my parents consent that whether i can marry a Thailand Lady.They agreed.I will try to save up the money from NS and marry her.Although i will not hold a grand ceremony but i guess she don mind either.

There are some problems i need to consider.If she really staying in Singapore,i scare that she might not be able to click with the society.Singapore is fast pace,Language barrier and those samsters who know her.

[Da Ming]

Thank You People For all the advice and help.It been awhile that i post a reply.Let me just tell you people what is happening to the both of us.

Around the end of April,i cannot resist myself anymore.I went to call her atnight.When she pick up the phone, both of us have nothing to say.She ask me whether i am angry at her.i reply no.i told her i love her and miss her alot and was busy working throughout 2 weeks.Then i remind her that she told me she was coming to Singapore.She gave me the excuse that she bought her family for a holiday in phuket and decided not to continue to study.Guess the money the samster gave her was spend on the holiday.Since she was not studying anymore i ask her whether i can go to chiangrai to stay with her for 1 week before i enlisting.She say that her parents would mind that me since the both of her were not married and other people would say something about the family.The family is very tradition.I told her i can stay in the hotel but the hotel is far from her place and she got to work everyday by helping her parents sewing the curtains.She also question me that if i love her i should call her regularly.She promised me that after i finish my NS (2years), she would be saving the money at the same time and go to Singapore and find me.But This time she want me to marry her.I really Love her alot and agreed to what she say.After that day, i send her a Goodnight and Goodmorning SMS-s everyday without failed.

After this Talk,i feel that i LOVE her even more.Now that i have not start my career i also want to buy a bigger flat to accomodate my family and my Thailand Gf.I also ask my parents consent that whether i can marry a Thailand Lady.They agreed.I will try to save up the money from NS and marry her.Although i will not hold a grand ceremony but i guess she don mind either.

There are some problems i need to consider.If she really staying in Singapore,i scare that she might not be able to click with the society.Singapore is fast pace,Language barrier and those samsters who know her.



no offend...learn to be ruthless at times

strange to me is someone who has yet to join NS is planning for
his to settle down :)

[Hungry-LoneWolf]

Hi bro BeDoK85

Your are just like my reflection, my eariler self. Looking at you just like looking at myself half a year ago. Your case is much more obvious than mine if what you said is true. But I'm not going to stop you. You won't listen.This tirak club membership is very easy to apply but you pay a large price to get it.
Just enjoy the roller coaster ride, fasten your sit-belt, hold back as much feeling as possible (you still get hurt but not that bad), open your eye big big.
And strongly strongly agree with jackylee that you bring a friend with you When come to $$ matter between you and her, someone can be a judge that use his head than your heart.And if anything went wrong, just enjoy the cheap cheap beer there with your friend rather than come back sillypore drink waste money ;)
Only through this ride will you understand the true angry nature of this heavenly lovy lovy feeling.

That's all I want to say, you take care bro. And don't forget the helmet too.

[naemlo]

This is always the case, young, single and have the time to spare, one would easily fall into such traps. Especially when someone treat you in a sweet and caring manner, the faster you will fall for her.


Not only young n single... most bros here will fall for such traps... We are human being with feeling too.

[singrakthai]

After this Talk,i feel that i LOVE her even more.Now that i have not start my career i also want to buy a bigger flat to accomodate my family and my Thailand Gf.
Did u check with ur gf if she minds staying in HDB flat?

I will try to save up the money from NS and marry her...
Call up CPC and ask if any appointments in Sai Yok Camp, or HQ Cresendo and volunteer to sign on...

Although i will not hold a grand ceremony but i guess she don mind either..
Ya, she probably don't mind the ceremony in S'pore but don't forget to save the money for the ceremony in her village.

There are some problems i need to consider.If she really staying in Singapore,i scare that she might not be able to click with the society.Singapore is fast pace,Language barrier and those samsters who know her.
She probably will not be used to S'pore food, people, language, but don't worry,cos u'll get to fly her back often because of her visa due as u'll have trouble getting PR for her....

disclaimer: some are really stupid suggestions and comments, for example encouraging him to sign on but i'm giving DIRECT answers based on his questions or comments. Please don't zap me!!! :p

[SomeGuy_sg]

Agreed , Go to thailand with a friend is better and cheapier . Firstly , going to thailand will allow you to see her intentions. Secondly , you can take it as a holiday before your enlistment . And helloo commandos do go to thailand for training . And third , you can also either comfirm your feelings for her or drop your feelings for her there ....


:D what ever you choose , it will be your choice ;)

[Hasa Sas]

Thank You People For all the advice and help.It been awhile that i post a reply.Let me just tell you people what is happening to the both of us.

Around the end of April,i cannot resist myself anymore.I went to call her atnight.When she pick up the phone, both of us have nothing to say.She ask me whether i am angry at her.i reply no.i told her i love her and miss her alot and was busy working throughout 2 weeks.Then i remind her that she told me she was coming to Singapore.She gave me the excuse that she bought her family for a holiday in phuket and decided not to continue to study.Guess the money the samster gave her was spend on the holiday.Since she was not studying anymore i ask her whether i can go to chiangrai to stay with her for 1 week before i enlisting.She say that her parents would mind that me since the both of her were not married and other people would say something about the family.The family is very tradition.I told her i can stay in the hotel but the hotel is far from her place and she got to work everyday by helping her parents sewing the curtains.She also question me that if i love her i should call her regularly.She promised me that after i finish my NS (2years), she would be saving the money at the same time and go to Singapore and find me.But This time she want me to marry her.I really Love her alot and agreed to what she say.After that day, i send her a Goodnight and Goodmorning SMS-s everyday without failed.

After this Talk,i feel that i LOVE her even more.Now that i have not start my career i also want to buy a bigger flat to accomodate my family and my Thailand Gf.I also ask my parents consent that whether i can marry a Thailand Lady.They agreed.I will try to save up the money from NS and marry her.Although i will not hold a grand ceremony but i guess she don mind either.

There are some problems i need to consider.If she really staying in Singapore,i scare that she might not be able to click with the society.Singapore is fast pace,Language barrier and those samsters who know her.

For your scenerio, i can only advise you to pull the plug before you
plunge deeper. There are much more better opportunities for you.
Don't waste your time. Sorry to pour cold water
The truth has already speak for itself. :(

[Hasa Sas]

.... Got few more signs which can make you suspicious one lah, lazy to think and type, me quit playing with feeling so long leow hehehe sianz leow, now pefer pay and bonk. more cheaper kekekeke



tOTALLY AGREE.....at the end of the day, somehow we spend more
than that...stiil back to square one...noting is free in this world
Pay what ever is due.... ;)

[BigGuy]

Welcome to the TIRAK Club. hahahahahaha. You looking for problems?

As for why she don't let you send her to airport is not because she scared the OKT. What can the OKT do? She only FL mah. Its because someone else with her at the airport lah. And who is the person? I don't know. Definitely more important than you.

And as for help father cannot reply sms. Please, this is a very cock reason. And show your photo to her father and mother? How you know? You got eyes to see in thailand?


SC


Wa so direct ah.....

[BigGuy]

Anyway to threadstarter,

How many siam bu can you help....you claim u no money wan.....then want to be smartalec to help?.....

Everyone WL would have their sobbing story of money no enuff for family to do this or not......or family in debt la.....bro owe money la.....money for siblings to study la.....how true u dun know.....so wat even if u fly there......2 scenarios lor.....one is she bluff u....or it's true lor......Nonetheless IMHO dun waste money.....Y?

Singaporean FL gals also cook up stories.....so what of overseas WL......Enuff sensible from ppl in this forum to u lor.....

[GoForIt]

me learn fr mistake n im sure alot of bros do dat too,tio bo

needing attention + living in sweet memories will cost u quite a big part of ur soul n $$$ but will be make u wiser if you're not a mule,kekeke.........in next round

maybe tis is round 1 for u,me round until sian liao,now time for me to be the player n bonker :cool:

[naemlo]

Wa so direct ah.....


SC always very direct when comes to tirak problem. :D

SC correct me if I'm wrong.

[singrakthai]

remember to watch Channel U on Wed 8.30pm or 10.30pm about ah pei kanna conned by WL/FL, ok? :D
Feedback ok? Won't be in s'pore....

cheers