Guide To Sex Technics & Positions

[The Punisher]

Introduction

A successful sexual relationship isn't just about positions. If you're having trouble communicating, or you're experiencing anger or hostility or a sense of distance from your partner, knowing about new ways to have sex may not make any difference to your love life. But, having said that, if your relationship is working reasonably well, but the spark of passion has left your sex life, trying out some new positions can add intimacy, connection and fun to your relationship.

Considering how much time we all spend trying to get sex, or find a partner with whom we can enjoy lovemaking, it may be strange that we get bored with sex so easily. But sex is no different to any other human skill - it requires practice to do it well, and it requires new ideas and stimulation from time to time to ensure that it remains fresh and enjoyable. So, relax, get your partner alongside you, discuss these ideas, and then have fun trying them out!

Thrusting - or something else?

We tend to think of intercourse or lovemaking as a penis-in-a-vagina experience that has to involve thrusting - the old in-out, in-out routine. But there are plenty of ways that a man and woman can achieve intimacy and fulfillment without vigorous penile thrusting. Once her man's penis is inside her, many women experience a sense of fulfillment and connection that is precious and important to them whether or not their man thrusts. And though men have a deep instinctual urge to thrust, they too can enjoy these gentle experiences of closeness and connection. Another possibility is to enjoy different kinds of movement once the man has inserted his penis - a gentle rocking motion or gentle circular movements of the hips is often enjoyable. And since the vagina is most sensitive nearest its outer edges, shallow penetration in which the man just inserts his penis an inch or two, then withdraws, and then gently re-enters to the same depth can be very teasing and enjoyable - especially if his partner can squeeze his penis with her vaginal muscles as he moves in and out!

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[The Punisher]

The missionary position - the staple diet of sex

This position is the one most commonly used by couples, but funnily enough it never appears at the top of lists of people's favorites. Men's top two favorites are (1) rear entry with both partners kneeling, and (2) woman on top. The missionary comes in at number 4. For women, the top two favorites are (1) woman on top facing towards the man, and (2) woman on top facing away from the man. The missionary comes in at number 5.

Why such a paradox? Are we afraid to admit that we secretly crave something more exciting, while we're bored with the missionary but we do it because we think it is what our partner wants, without having ever actually asked them? It does seem strange, but sex is a personal and mysterious thing, and what couples say they want in surveys seems very different to what they actually do in the bedroom. Maybe the idea of rear entry and woman on top seem good because of their raw animal lust for men and the assumed position of power for women, but what men and woman actually want during sex is to feel intimate and connected with their partner. This may be why the missionary is the most common position couples actually use, for it certainly allows for great intimacy in the form of eye contact and full skin-to-skin contact and the ability to kiss and hold each other close. Also, some women seem to like the slight sense of being trapped or dominated by their partner if he is lying on top of them, and it can be very exciting for the man if the woman rests her feet on his calf muscles or wraps her legs around his back, drawing him in closely to her.

And yet the missionary has a disadvantage for a woman - her pelvic movements can be restricted, so she cannot thrust as much, which means she must be more passive, and her clitoris is often not stimulated as much as in other positions - at least, it is certainly not available for the man or woman to play with. Unless she can come from vaginal thrusting alone (which is unusual), she may not have an orgasm unless the couple take care to ensure she gets one during foreplay or after intercourse.

The missionary position described

Most couples probably know how it works - the woman lies on her back with her legs apart and the man lowers himself on top of her, supporting his weight with his elbows, and enters her with his legs either inside or outside hers (usually inside). He may lower himself onto her and rest more of his weight on her body. The woman can wrap her legs around him to control the depth and speed of his thrusting into her vagina, or she may thrust a little towards him from her pelvis to match his movements in and out of her vagina.

Basic missionary
The female lies on her back with her legs spread apart or closed (see pics below). The male then lowers himself on top of the female with his arms supporting his weight. From this position the male has the freedom to thrust or make circular movements with his thighs. If he lowers himself closer to her and rests some of his weight on top of her body, his pubic bone can provide gentle clitoral stimulation. The female can thrust her middle body towards the man using the support of her legs, or grasp the man from behind controlling somewhat his thrusting movements.
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Variations on the basic missionary

The coital alignment technique
This is a way in which the woman's clitoris can be stimulated more than in the basic missionary. The man enters from between the woman's legs as he would normally, but he then moves further up the woman's body so that the base of his penis can make contact with her clitoris when he thrusts. The woman can wrap her legs around her partner's, placing her feet on his calves, stretching her legs slightly as she does so, which again tends to move her clitoris towards the man's penis. (see pic below) If she rocks her pelvis in this position, her clit should make contact with the base of the man's penis and she will be stimulated both internally and externally. Then the subtle, coordinated rocking movement can begin. Here's the most important part: As she pushes up on the top of his shaft, he resists with less force than she pushes. Now, on the way back down, as he pushes down against her clitoris, she resists with less force than he pushes. The result is a series of "small collisions," rather than the standard friction of thrusting. The movement is subtle, coordinated, gentle, rhythmic, slow-building. Like everything in life, it takes practice. This is more than a position; it's a coordinated movement about vibration, not friction. Less in and out and more rock 'n' roll." "The man is actually shallow when the woman is getting the most stimulation on the downward push.
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Woman lifts her legs

There are many ways both the man and the woman can move during the missionary which will alter what they both feel. The female partner may find that the man's penis stimulates her G-spot much more in certain positions, and that if he thrusts gently she may attain a state of increasing sexual energy which eventually leads to a G-spot or vaginal orgasm. For example, the woman can lift and bend her legs and place her feet on the mattress or on her partner's legs. The effect of this is enhanced if the woman moves her feet up to her partners' buttocks. (Which may even enhance the CAT described above.)
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Woman's legs locked around the man

The higher the woman raises her legs, the deeper the man can enter her. If she is flexible enough to get her legs around his back, this will permit him to get deep into her - a delicious feeling for many women, and certainly rewarding for the man, although such deep penetration can cause him to come quite quickly. Many men seem to enjoy the feeling of their partner locking her legs around his back, but again this can cause him to come quickly. Presumably the reason is that it conveys how much she wants him inside her - and how much she wants him to come in her, which is a real turn-on for a man.
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Woman's legs over man's shoulders

As you might expect, this allows the deepest penetration of all. The man is likely to find this very stimulating, and get some good orgasms, but he needs to be respectful and considerate of his partner's needs. She may just find vaginal thrusting too painful and stimulating, and need him to back off a little if he gets too excited. Good communication between the partners will help enormously here. But it's a very satisfying position for both partners if they are flexible enough.
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The man kneels for the missionary

Here is one variation on the missionary which does allow the woman's clitoris to receive the attention it deserves! The man can pull the woman onto his penis by placing his hands on her thighs, and she can raise her legs in the most comfortable way - even up onto his shoulders if she wishes. The man can see himself going in and out of her vagina, which can be an incredible turn-on, and he can caress and stroke his partner's body and perhaps play with her anus as well if they wish. A good position for intimate connection, but somewhat of a strain for the woman if it goes on for too long. A pillow under her buttocks may help.
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The woman keeps her legs closed

If the female partner keeps her legs together, the sensations will be different again. Obviously the tighter her vagina, the more intense the sensation for the man. A technique well worth experimenting with, though again the feeling of tightness may encourage the quick comers among men to shoot too fast.

Most women enjoy the missionary position with legs apart. This is not necessary and many couples prefer positions where the woman can keep her legs closed. Added stimulation and unique sensations are usually what result. When her legs are closed, a woman’s vagina tightens around her partner’s penis giving more intense stimulation to both partners. This position also forces the man to enter from a sharper angle towards the clitoris adding more stimulation for the woman. The man in this position may also close his legs, placing all his weight on his partner. Careful here, some women appreciate this feeling, others are burdened by it!
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Next - Woman On Top.

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[excm69]

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Waiting for more.... ;)

[subband]

very good!!

yes!! waiting for more to come!!

[xiexie]

nice one man haha keep it up

[thaivisitor]

I agree. It's a very good guide!

Good work. Looking out for more! :D

[woaini]

Bro punisher..... good effort.
Up yr repo 6 points. :)

[actblur]

Wow.... this is a very informative and thanks for sharing with us. Feel like going back to school again :D

Can't wait for the next position :D

[Ethanas]

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The site provide not just positions, also include preparation till after love making.

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[holding]

very informative...thks, bros.. :p

[bradpitt]

here is my contribution on "locating the G-spot"

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[HardRock]

Thanks to all bros... well done. Keep it up! :)

[The Punisher]

Woman on top

Many couples find this a very exciting position, and it's one that's more likely than most to allow a woman to orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. In addition, this position can be very empowering for women, allowing a new sense of excitement, control and power during the act of sex. It gets away from the idea that the woman is the submissive partner in lovemaking, or that lovemaking is something that a man "does" to a woman.

The woman can control the speed and depth of lovemaking, and get a sense of dominance over her male partner. For men it can be exciting to see their partners' breasts or buttocks (depending on how the technique is done), and it certainly changes the traditional expectation that a man is responsible for initiating and guiding the couple during sex, and that the female is a receptive, almost passive recipient of his vaginal thrusts. This can be a good experience for a man who's secure enough in himself not to feel threatened by the role reversal.

The woman on top position described - basic woman on top

The man lies on his back while his female partner straddles him. His movement is limited by her weight, and she can control the depth of thrusting. Both partners can stroke or fondle her breasts, clitoris, back and buttocks, and she can caress his chest, arms and testicles. The woman can move her hips in either a thrusting or a rocking motion, and she may control the degree of stimulation she offers the man by limiting the extent to which she moves up and down on his penis shaft. All in all, a very exciting position, with a lot of possibilities.
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Variations on woman on top

The woman lies on top - upside down missionary!

The feelings here can be intense. The intensity will depend chiefly on how tightly the woman keeps her legs shut. If she lies with her legs inside the man's and keeps them closed, his penis will be squeezed in a way that is hard to achieve in any other position, and though he is likely to come quickly, the feelings will be stronger for the woman as well. For a woman who likes the sense of penetration and the feeling of her man's penis inside her, this is a powerful experience.
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Other variations

Variations on the woman on top are all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and the fact that the woman gets different sensations when the man penetrates her from different angles. This can be exciting for the man as well, of course, because different positions stimulate different parts of his penis and also put different degrees of pressure on it. A couple can have a great deal of fun and be very playful in experimenting with these different positions; there is little more to say other than "have fun!"

The woman on top faces away from the man

A position which can provide the most intense vaginal stimulation when the woman sits on top of her man and then leans forward as far as is comfortable. This is not something that all men will find comfortable, especially those with a hard upright erection which normally stands against the stomach, but it is certainly a very stimulating one for the woman, because it allows her to ride his penis while stimulating her G-spot. This is shown in the third picture below.
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The woman on top faces towards the man

Some of the possible things you can to do for greater enjoyment when leaning forward in this position include kissing, playing with the woman's anus or the man's balls, and kissing and licking her breasts. If the woman is leaning away, the man could laos play with her clitoris while the woman could play with the man's balls.
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A loving embrace

A very touching and gentle position that goes far beyond just "fucking" is the one shown in the picture below. The position can also be tried with the man kneeling as well as the woman. Once the couple has placed their arms around each other, they can remain upright for some time, bodies locked together. This position allows a couple who love each other to maintain an embrace enhanced by the knowledge that they have a union of penis and vagina as well as their bodies. By remaining still, that is, not thrusting, but just touching, talking, eye gazing, and loving each other, it is possible to experience a deep feeling of intimacy and connection. Allow yourselves to experience the depth of connection - breath out deeply a few times to relax parts of your body that may be tense, and you will feel yourselves slipping into a realm of deeper sexual union.
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Other variations on a theme

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Next - Rear Entry (Doggie Style)

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[Batman Begins]

yeoh looking forward for you to share with us more " knowledge "
thanks for your contribution :)

[giggz83]

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[chinaman]

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[oxilary]

informative read :)

[blade]

great info! up ur points! :cool:

[diver5007]

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[The Punisher]

Rear entry (doggy style)

It's not a great term, is it? Rear entry? But maybe its impersonal feel sums up the real attractiveness of rear entry sex - its animalistic lustfulness. It comes nearer, of course, to sex as it would once have been for our ancestors, than any other position, and it's certainly a powerful stimulus for the man, with the site of the woman's bottom, her cheeks parted to allow his penis entry to her body. Certainly men are turned on by this more than just about anything else, and they tend to come most quickly when having sex in this position.

What of women's enjoyment? Opinion seems to be split roughly down the middle - some love it, and some hate it, a division which probably reflects whether or not an individual woman feels like a sex object rather than a loved partner when she gets into this position.

But assuming that a couple want to do it, what advantages does it have? First of all, a man has lots of flexibility in how he moves, and the type of thrusts he can make. He can move deeply or not as he chooses, and he can watch himself as he goes in and out of her vagina, which can be a powerful turn-on. And his female partner can move her hips in all kinds of ways, so she can either remain still as he thrusts, or she can meet his movements with back and forward thrusts of her pelvis. If the man chooses to lean forward and embrace his partner, he can use one hand to caress her stomach and breasts and he can always reach around and tease her clitoris. He can also see her bottom, which is a very powerful sexual stimulus for most men, and he has free access to her anus, which may be exciting if a couple like anal play.

Alternatively the man may remain still and allow his female partner to thrust her hips back and forwards along his penis - a unique kind of movement which is very different and exciting for the man, hinting at the eagerness of his female partner to embrace his penis.

If a couple think rear entry isn't a very intimate position there are ways to make it seem less lustful. A mirror placed strategically in front of the couple will allow the man and woman to stare into each other's eyes and establish greater connection - apart from which, the experience of watching their lovemaking can very sexy in itself.

A lot of couples find that the man slips out when they make love this way - this has nothing to do with the size of his penis! The man needs to learn to establish a slow steady rhythm and control the depth of his strokes so that he does not slip out as he thrusts. And if the woman moves her hips as well, it may take a little time for the couple to learn a comfortable rhythm. But the results are well worth it!

Next - The rear entry position described - basic rear entry

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[The Punisher]

The rear entry position described - basic rear entry

The woman lies on her stomach or kneels on all fours, with her lover kneeling behind her. (A standing variation is described below.) He can place his legs inside or outside hers, and then he inserts his penis. This may take a little orientation until he is used to the angle, and the woman may need to raise or lower her hips to the right height so that he can easily get into her vagina; once he's in, she may wish to close or tighten her legs so as to increase the friction and grip on his penis. He can thrust away as slowly or as quickly as he likes, and either grip her pelvis or reach around and play with her breasts and clitoris. Deep thrusting is particularly easy, and the man can stimulate the inside wall of the vagina in a way he cannot in other positions. The intensity of the experience means that a man will come quickly and so it can be a good way to finish making love after the woman has had her orgasm and the man is ready to enjoy his.
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Variations on the basic rear entry

The man standing

A very arousing and powerful position for the man. This is certainly in the top ten favorite positions for men.
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The woman lies on the bed with the man on top of her

Again, like all these positions, there are many small degrees of variation that a couple can discover for themselves, and which may add a whole new dimension to the experience. It's all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and, for the man, his ability to see his partner from the rear and take pleasure in the sheer male lustfulness of this act. A man's lustful need to have a simple, straightforward fuck from time to time is often overlooked, for reasons of political correctness or misplaced belief that a caring partner never wants sex for sex's sake! It may be easier to make love successfully in this position if the woman has a pillow under her hips so as to raise them a bit for the man to gain easier entry to her vagina.
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Rear entry - sitting

You can do this in a chair, with the man sitting down and the woman on top of him, facing away (or even towards, though of course that is hardly rear entry). Or you can do it as shown in the picture below. It's a very restful position for both man and woman, and the female can move as quickly or as slowly as she wishes, either thrusting her hips up and down, or in a circular pattern, or in a gentle rocking motion. The depth and speed of lovemaking are under her control. A nice, gentle position, especially good when either partner is not strong or has been disabled.
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Next - Side by side

The Punisher

[Batman Begins]

hi..... great contribution ......sure alot of ppl can benefit from you .....
keep it coming :)

[jacky29]

sex needs a hole & a rod. if only the holes can get to see these :p

else if the rod has to teach & guide every time, a bit sian. must be spontaneous then enjoyable. :D

good effort! thank u bro!

[The Punisher]

Side by side

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Side by side positions are wonderful for slow romantic lovemaking. It is often easiest to start from a more conventional position like the missionary and then roll over onto your sides. This is especially true for the position shown in the first photo above. This is a wonderfully intimate and connected position in which the partners can lie back and gaze into each other's eyes, or embrace closely and kiss, or just lie still while they enjoy the sensations of closeness. In this face to face position, the man can kiss and nibble his partner's breasts and she can see him do it, which can be a powerful erotic stimulus for her. In addition, the partners can touch each other's chest, torso, face and back, which can increase their sense of intimacy. It is a position in which the man can thrust gently and last for a long time before he comes - movement of his hips is slightly restricted, but he can achieve good penetration, and there is no danger of him slipping out while he thrusts because his partner can wrap her legs around him and hold him inside her while the lovemaking continues. All in all, this is an excellent position and highly recommended.

The rear entry side by side position shown in the second photo is often called the spoons - like a pair of spoons with the bowls together. Some men like to go to sleep after lovemaking while they are still inside their partner - this is the position to do it, curled up together and resting after sex. It is an exciting position for the man, with the suggestion of taking his woman from behind, but it may not produce as much sensation as some others. It is intimate and allows good body contact, though, and it can therefore be a good start to lovemaking. By moving slightly as shown in the third photo, the couple can come up with any number of variations on a theme - some of which will, as always, produce more sensation than others for the man or the woman or both.

Next - Other sexual positions

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[nismo88]

Good....!!! The Best Sex Guide!!! :)

[saint_1979]

Excellent thread. Up ur point. Keep it up. :))
Gd & useful for my future wife, in 4yrs time.

[The Punisher]

Other sexual positions

Well, these are the adventurous versions of some of the positions you have already seen - some of them are just for fun, and some of them are only for the fit and supple. Why try them? Well, you certainly don't need to, if you are happy with the way things are in your love life. But as we said in the introduction, if your love life is flagging through boredom and you're feeling that sex has become a bit monotonous, then trying some new positions can be a way to boost your excitement and passion. I think that lovers who are trying slightly more complicated positions than the standard missionary, rear entry and side by side will be able to play with these positions and find their own favorites - above all, have fun, and enjoy yourselves! Sex should be playful as well as passionate!
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Hope you guys and girls enjoy my contribution.

The End

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[thaivisitor]

Very good contribution. In fact could compile this as an e-book. :cool:

[jazzem]

Excellent read! Thumbs up!

[gogg3r]

WOAH!! :eek: good read bro. real information there...

Thanks! :D

[oxilary]

WOAH!! :eek: good read bro. real information there...



do let me know which positions good after u try wor :D

[kristie009]

Any more variations pls?? :p