HOw to open the topic of sex with girlfriend

[LovePotion]

Just curious on how you discuss the sex topic with ur newly girlfriend before u actually do it with her? Can any bros share with me? Thanks

[eozei]

I thought you'd just make out with her and explore her boundaries first >< I guess its from there that you'd find out about where her preferences lie. I don't think there's a real need to ask her explicitly unless you know already that she's not into it.

[hokkienguy]

started with lame jokes, then funny jokes, then abit dirty jokes...then dirty topic:D

[BoinKING]

erm.. this kinda thing will naturally happen..
just don't rush into it unless both of you are horny then another story..

if abit more conservative then slowly hug -> make out -> light petting -> heavy... then after that you see if she's open to the full thing lo..

[MillieS]

Aren't you sweet! No such thing was ever brought up by my ex. :mad: Just started by making out. Then somehow 'hugged' me down onto the bed. And before I knew it my bra was undone and my knickers were at my knees. Bloody tosser. Bahhhh. :(

[soothHerOnlyIf]

Aren't you sweet! No such thing was ever brought up by my ex. :mad: Just started by making out. Then somehow 'hugged' me down onto the bed. And before I knew it my bra was undone and my knickers were at my knees. Bloody tosser. Bahhhh. :(



asking will sound too diplomatic and unatural isnt it? jus do it. the girl will say no if she feels uncomfortable. why will she stop you when she feels good when you are doing it with her? start by looking into her eyes, kissing and then so on so forth but always look for some place with nobody. :D you wont want others to fet free show unless you got that area of fetish.

[Big Semens]

This sort of things no need MCQ lah .... bring her go drink red wine, after tipsy then explore, autoroam ..... etc

[tttk3388]

Watch porn together then follow the flow? :rolleyes:

[BMW69]

Trust me bro. Just go with the flow. When the time is right and the mood is right, the sex will naturally come. Don't rush things, don't talk her into it. She may end up regretting it later.

[FBInsp]

Just curious on how you discuss the sex topic with ur newly girlfriend before u actually do it with her? Can any bros share with me? Thanks

this type of thing need to ask wan meh..?? wait tio reject jiu come complain say gf dun wan give sex... :D

haha must have feel den she will auto let u know wat her comfort zone is de ma... :cool:

[diputs1269]

From clean jokes to dirty jokes should do the trick:)

[GarlicBread]

do it with hand not mouth lol :D

[peanut123]

My suggestion is don't ask her for sex. She might say no, which will kill your chances. She might even say no even if she wanted to say yes, to avoid you thinking that she's easy. So don't ask.

Instead, suggest going to a hotel for some relaxation, use the sauna / swimming pool, etc. Make it a nicer hotel than Hotel 81. Surely she knows what this will likely lead to, and if she still says yes, then it means she is open to the outcome of you fucking her.

Ask her to shower together with you, or ask her to shower first. If she doesn't lock the door, it's a great hint. Ho-say liao, just go in and shower with her.

Finally, get into bed and start touching her and smooching her. But don't go too fast. Women dun like men to jump straight into the sex part. Plenty of kissing and touching till she's aroused. If she dun stop you from undressing her, then you are in for a good time. If she stop you, then your skills are not good enough or you made your move too soon.

It might also help if you buy a bottle of wine. Alcohol removes inhibitions and will make your job easier. But make sure she's not drunk, just a bit high. Fucking a drunk woman who is unable to decline is considered rape.


Just curious on how you discuss the sex topic with ur newly girlfriend before u actually do it with her? Can any bros share with me? Thanks

[MillieS]

asking will sound too diplomatic and unatural isnt it? jus do it. the girl will say no if she feels uncomfortable. why will she stop you when she feels good when you are doing it with her? start by looking into her eyes, kissing and then so on so forth but always look for some place with nobody. :D you wont want others to fet free show unless you got that area of fetish.

Not when the words 'Trust me, I won't do anything other than kissing' was uttered before anything happened. But boys will be boys! You horny lot. Haha.

[Spermyking]

create great atmosphere which is the most important thing to do firstly, den all will come naturally if the feel is there

[Spermyking]

and also depending on how good are u in your kissing skill to be able to bring everything going with the flow to the main course

[SammyNewbie]

Not when the words 'Trust me, I won't do anything other than kissing' was uttered before anything happened. But boys will be boys! You horny lot. Haha.

Don't tell me you didn't enjoy it though :D

[MillieS]

Don't tell me you didn't enjoy it though :D

:p Shellshocked for a moment! Can't say I didn't have my fair share of enjoyment. :o

[Bangster]

TS...aiyah you are sex toy king leh...
Don't need to ask too directly...just show her your toys, then ask " wanna play? I got real one."

[JohnMama]

I would begin by saying that next week you are leaving for good, to a monastery.....

And that you wish to know what sex is before your penis goes into permanent retirement....

[piggylin]

argh.. don't know why i post reply bit internet got problem..:( But anyway.. My point of view is.. This kind of things will happen naturally.. Don't really have to open talk about sex topic.. ;) maybe start kissing & it will just lead to something else..

[skyline2000]

Hmm, all this comes naturally.

[tcrecruit]

I guess if you need to discuss it so 'un naturally' with her, maybe your relationship with her is not ripe for it yet. As other bros mentioned, take time, do not rush it... Sometimes it's the pursuit that makes it more interesting......

[rainchezz]

Just curious on how you discuss the sex topic with ur newly girlfriend before u actually do it with her? Can any bros share with me? Thanks

It has to go with the mood dude. That's why birthdays, valentine's day, Anniversaries, Xmas / New Year eves are the most "dangerous" periods to a gal. :D

[DegenerationX]

this type of thing need to ask wan meh..?? wait tio reject jiu come complain say gf dun wan give sex... :D

Then he will have a valid reason to his gf for going FL. 家里不开饭，不能阻止我去外面用餐。

[sean69]

TS,

I thot you have a online biz selling sex toys?? you can use one of your vibrators and say you need her opinion on the performance.. :D

who knows what may happen from there.. :D

[kiyogara]

usually i get teh girl to b more comfortable with me, spend tym, get to know her, see if shes ticklish, the relax type or the cuddle type or the always ready type or worst..the GUESSING type. start slow, take it easy..i always find talking and putting her at ease gets her there.good luck! :)

[alexbi]

As mentioned i think this kind of thing will come naturally as well as you progress into the relationship. I think it will be awkward if you were to ask explicitly. If the girl is the conservative type, you'll probably scare her off. If the girl is open to it, then congrats to you. But either way, i still think let it progress naturally. Though of course you can try to create opportunities as well to progress. :D

[PeaceWithin]

Plenty of advice from everyone here... no need to add further about taking things naturally...

More importantly... no self-respecting gal would say "Yes!" if a guy asked her in her face for the first time even though she's itching for it.

[raging94]

just touch touch ...she high alr easy liao :x
trust me ^^

[xiaodai]

Drink Drank Drunk.. Have fun..~~

[soothHerOnlyIf]

Not when the words 'Trust me, I won't do anything other than kissing' was uttered before anything happened. But boys will be boys! You horny lot. Haha.

cos he hasn't completed the sentence :D "Trust me, I won't do anything other than kissing...unless you feel good and didn't say no or stop me from going further than kissing" :D :D :D

[ultima]

Normally you cannot ask her directly, but in turn is more of your physical action and the mood.

[Stud00]

Just curious on how you discuss the sex topic with ur newly girlfriend before u actually do it with her? Can any bros share with me? Thanks

TS,

didn't know that there's a SOP about "how to bonk my gf"..

there's this thing called chemistry, and whatever happens will happen if it is meant to happen. There's another thing called boundaries, question is, what if this girl doesn't believe in pre martial sex? Would you respect her? Not being a saint here, but you should take this opportunity to look into your motive. When we visit FLS, etc.. we pay for sex, so we do expect to get laid, same thing when we have flings, but with a gf, its a different thing. There's a line between love and lust.. so what is it that you have for her? In closing, if it happens, it would be the most beautiful experience for both of you.. so take it easy bro.. and please, wear a condom unless you are dying to celebrate Father's day!