probing into the past?

[soothHerOnlyIf]

After seeking FLs for a while, one thing came into mind.

There're girls who come and go as FL but because it's discreet so we wouldn't know who they are. Say you meet one girl and she became your gf. after par tor for a while, you started having sex with her and found out she's damn good in (or damn tired of) sex..probably cos f**ked by too many bros so she's damn experienced (she can also act innocent) or as a result of f**king too much her body is damn sian of sex?

my question is, will you think that she's once a FL or will you ask her? just like the underaged limelight pro, no one knows or believes as long as she denies it all (but we chiongsters know the truth). but if she's really damn good in sex, wouldn't it occur to you she might have been FL before? or Love conquers all and past should be left behind?

[micmac888]

Had encountered this several times to-date.

Was pleasantly surprised by her(their) sexual prowess. No coaching needed. Knew which buttons (and when) to press to make me forget my surname too.

Too curious and just had to ask - but not the way you put it so bluntly.

Told her how amazing it was , out-of-this-world etc . Then asked her abt her prior experiences. She went into denial (and I was none wiser of course).

Eventually guilt took over during the course of time and she told me.

Dumped her there and then. Reason : integrity issue.

Told her it was better for her to have said "dun ask" than to give a flat-out denial. "Dun ask" leaves room for understanding and quiet acceptance. Denial is a straight lie to the face.

Trust is and will always be one of the most precious human commodity to another.

[onlyhuman]

After seeking FLs for a while, one thing came into mind.

There're girls who come and go as FL but because it's discreet so we wouldn't know who they are. Say you meet one girl and she became your gf. after par tor for a while, you started having sex with her and found out she's damn good in (or damn tired of) sex..probably cos f**ked by too many bros so she's damn experienced (she can also act innocent) or as a result of f**king too much her body is damn sian of sex?

my question is, will you think that she's once a FL or will you ask her? just like the underaged limelight pro, no one knows or believes as long as she denies it all (but we chiongsters know the truth). but if she's really damn good in sex, wouldn't it occur to you she might have been FL before? or Love conquers all and past should be left behind?

I only looks at the present and future...
What has past had past...

[soothHerOnlyIf]

though my ex told me I am the one who took her virginity, her actions doesn't look like she's a virgin. well not that it matters as long as she's free of STDs. I didn't ask and agree that past should be past.

[FBInsp]

Well I guess its not healthy to probe too much into the past... like 1 bro said we look at the present n future... u dun wan ur gf or wife to start saying my ex dick is longer or he last longer give better sex rite... so I wud say let bygones be bygones n start afresh with her... if she is a FL b4, den u oso tan dio cos u will be having great sex the rest of ur life... no need waste money buy gfe or great sex liao... :D:p

well TS, y dun u give ur gf the benefit of a doubt... mayb she could have watch more porn than u did... thus she knows how to do it... ;)

2 cents

FBInsp

[vonnieleung]

Well I guess its not healthy to probe too much into the past... like 1 bro said we look at the present n future... u dun wan ur gf or wife to start saying my ex dick is longer or he last longer give better sex rite... so I wud say let bygones be bygones n start afresh with her... if she is a FL b4, den u oso tan dio cos u will be having great sex the rest of ur life... no need waste money buy gfe or great sex liao... :D:p

well TS, y dun u give ur gf the benefit of a doubt... mayb she could have watch more porn than u did... thus she knows how to do it... ;)

2 cents

FBInsp

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[FBInsp]

I like you avatar :D

N I love Vonnie Leung..!! :D

[AlphaRomeoo]

I think whether she is a FL before or not it doesn't matter. The past is the past. What is most important is the present. Well that is my perspective anyways..

[notti4u]

I guess we should look forward and not bother by the past. Everyone have their own past and if you are bother by the past, that means you are not really love her / him and accept their past.

Just switch yourself in the situation, you have not so good past and your recently new found loved one left you due to this, how do you feel?

[soothHerOnlyIf]

hey bros, am I right to say what's past is past only if she didn't pass any STD to you? I'm thinking, all's well and doesn't matter if she's FL before. geez even better if she's FL before cos I can have great sex :D cos she knows how to press my buttons so perfectly but what if when all's well until the day you and her go for a body check up before walking down the aisle to get married and you found out she's got virus? will you still say past is past? personally, I don't really know what I will do..most probably walk out if my love is not strong enough? there're cases in ang moh countries the spouse stayed with their HIV partner but I dont think I see that in Asian societies..

[alexander81]

seriously bros ,

would you guys be serious with a girl who used to be a FL ? I am fucking fucked up now as i met one i really like.

She is outright frank about everything . why she did it.

[Fairgame]

The truths hurt.......

It is better not to know rather than always trying to seek an answer.Life is already complicated enough as it is so why try to find more problems to add to your life?

Some may says must find out blah lah blah but after finding out can you handle the truth?Sometime ignorance really is bliss.

This is only my personal opinion and many will disagree.

[FBInsp]

seriously bros ,

would you guys be serious with a girl who used to be a FL ? I am fucking fucked up now as i met one i really like.

She is outright frank about everything . why she did it.

Only u urself have the answer to dat question... its doesn't matter wat others have to say... she wans to tell u upfront cos she wans u to accept her for who she is...

[Forsyth]

B4 girls become fl they also have bfs, so they learn from what their bfs want.
Once I meet a fl who was very very good at deepthroat, best I tried.
I asked her how she learnt that and she just told me her bf liked that way so she learned.

[notti4u]

hey bros, am I right to say what's past is past only if she didn't pass any STD to you? I'm thinking, all's well and doesn't matter if she's FL before. geez even better if she's FL before cos I can have great sex :D cos she knows how to press my buttons so perfectly but what if when all's well until the day you and her go for a body check up before walking down the aisle to get married and you found out she's got virus? will you still say past is past? personally, I don't really know what I will do..most probably walk out if my love is not strong enough? there're cases in ang moh countries the spouse stayed with their HIV partner but I dont think I see that in Asian societies..

Bro, I know of someone that married a man who is HIV infected and she indeed still stick with him till date.

[AlphaRomeoo]

seriously bros ,

would you guys be serious with a girl who used to be a FL ? I am fucking fucked up now as i met one i really like.

She is outright frank about everything . why she did it.

I rather have a frank person who is open-minded. Everyone has their reasons.

Let me ask you this. So you rather she lie to you then when you both maybe get married and have kids then she tell you she was a FL before?

I would pick the first option at least she is good to let you know what you are getting yourself into.

[jasdude]

Knowing someone's past enable you to understand that person better. But TS it isn't fair to even think that the person could be a fl. So a guy that is good in bed and well versed in karma sutra is a gigolo? Open your mind because gals nowadays are equally capable of being players of guys.

[maxman]

It really depends on the individual man whether or not that they can accept the woman's past (sex life or sex life), and also the individual woman whether or not they want to be honest about themselves. No amount of discussion will find resolution to this matter.

Some men genuinely dislike and despise women who have sold sex for money, while some men have double-standards about having girlfriends of a pure history but also patronize sex workers. Then there are men who are liberal enough to accept and love a sex worker as a girlfriend.

However, some men may have heard that, or personally experienced, women who have prostituted (I try not to use this word) themselves for a long time would have their attitudes towards sex and money changed in a way that is not positive/conducive in genuine boy-girl relationships. Their attitudes are along the tune of sex is a commodity to get what they want, whether it is wealth, favours or power.

Any man in a relationship with a woman who has such attitudes may one day discover her cheating because she wanted something he could not or did not give her. She may also, like men, be able to separate sex from love, and hence behave promiscuously.

I admit to being curious about a woman's past if she is my gf/fb, and will probe a little. I agree, just as many of us do, that a woman who performs very well sexually is a dead giveaway indication of her past sexual experience. A woman who has had a few bf/fb is really not likely to perform very well. Watching porn itself really imparts very little practical skills.

Just my 2 cents worth of opinion.

[soothHerOnlyIf]

i was just wondering if girls do go for body check up before doing RAW with their bf/husband after she's been FL for quite some time. i guess it all boils down to individual level of responsibility and knowledge base. but if there's really love between the two, the one who's been working as a Pro (be it male or female) shouldnt want to infect their loved ones with any un-desirable virus?

[littlepok]

seriously bros ,

would you guys be serious with a girl who used to be a FL ? I am fucking fucked up now as i met one i really like.

She is outright frank about everything . why she did it.

ask yourself... like or love. if everytime u have sex with her and looking at her expression, thinking how many guys made her moan like that... then forget it. the shadow stays with u forever.

she is frank because she want u to think about it. she will not blame u if u want to break up, she is ready for it when she is frank to u. will u be frank to yourself how u really feel and be as frank to her also, to be fair to her.

no morals no social stigma. it's how u feel that matters. if u made a decision, stick with it with your life (not future quarrelling and bring out as ammo. that is a real fuckup man and i will gladly pui in your face)

[soothHerOnlyIf]

if she's willing to be frank, she's willing to accept any outcome. the ball's in your court now.

[asdfghjkl]

yeah this i agree! ;)

[Alf1977]

Is betrayal during a relationship considered the past?

One can forgive but one can never ever forget the hurt and betrayal the other partner did. In short, trust is no longer present in the relationship. Just treat the person as a companion when trust is no longer there. Don't put too much feeling and love in such a relationship. And always love yourself more than you love that someone and you will not get hurt the second time.

Another thing you can do is do what she did to you back to her... At least it will make you feel better.. If she has played with 20 guys, you go play with 21 girls but don't tell her .. Deep inside you, you will mentally feel more balanced.

[TieGuanYinCha]

Agree with soothHerOnlyIf

[AstonM2]

At the end of the day..it all boils down to yourself...you can get all the advice in the world...but if you can't live with it then better to let go instead of letting your mind go haywire...if you can then dun think about it anymore...everyone has a past...she may have slept with many...but you probably have also...I believe love can conquer all...and it's the present and future that matters...my 2 cents

[jj_jj]

Is betrayal during a relationship considered the past?

One can forgive but one can never ever forget the hurt and betrayal the other partner did. In short, trust is no longer present in the relationship. Just treat the person as a companion when trust is no longer there. Don't put too much feeling and love in such a relationship. And always love yourself more than you love that someone and you will not get hurt the second time.

Another thing you can do is do what she did to you back to her... At least it will make you feel better.. If she has played with 20 guys, you go play with 21 girls but don't tell her .. Deep inside you, you will mentally feel more balanced.

Y u so lidat?! u r better off on ur own, nobody deserves u.

[xxFTOxx]

though my ex told me I am the one who took her virginity, her actions doesn't look like she's a virgin. well not that it matters as long as she's free of STDs. I didn't ask and agree that past should be past.

There is this thing called porn where they can learn from. Sometimes some things are better left as the past. Everyone has a past and no one is perfect.

[zveron]

The real question is "what is the most important to you?"

If it is to have a good sex, what not a gf that is a previous fl, she is experience in give you pleasure and it is free!

If it is her, that does it matter if she had been a fl?

If it is you, then she and her past is not important enough, why bother thinking about it? You can always dump her and look for some one else.

[littlepok]

Is betrayal during a relationship considered the past?

One can forgive but one can never ever forget the hurt and betrayal the other partner did. In short, trust is no longer present in the relationship. Just treat the person as a companion when trust is no longer there. Don't put too much feeling and love in such a relationship. And always love yourself more than you love that someone and you will not get hurt the second time.

Another thing you can do is do what she did to you back to her... At least it will make you feel better.. If she has played with 20 guys, you go play with 21 girls but don't tell her .. Deep inside you, you will mentally feel more balanced.

so your gf should find some dirty thai slut men to balance abit. u stopped scolding the HR and the thai sluts liao ah

[Alf1977]

I did not stop scolding those f up Thai sluts, as for HR I no longer scold them, it's a useless department in my company, I wrote long complaint letters/emails twice to them complaining why they throw in prostitution during detachments and they totally ignored me.

Anyway since TS raised the topic of her gf being a fl, it goes to show he is bothered by the truth/her past. It will be hard for TS to forget that she is a fl, if look on a brighter side, at least you don't have to pay to hv sex with her unlike her previous customers. Just play along with her without investing much feelings in your relationship.

[soothHerOnlyIf]

I did not stop scolding those f up Thai sluts, as for HR I no longer scold them, it's a useless department in my company, I wrote long complaint letters/emails twice to them complaining why they throw in prostitution during detachments and they totally ignored me.

Anyway since TS raised the topic of her gf being a fl, it goes to show he is bothered by the truth/her past. It will be hard for TS to forget that she is a fl, if look on a brighter side, at least you don't have to pay to hv sex with her unlike her previous customers. Just play along with her without investing much feelings in your relationship.

no la. i'm just asking. don't know any girl in real life that's FL besides the ones I engaged for service. I was thinking if I ever knew one, what will I do..hmm..maybe I will cherish her and ask her to protect herself (ask guy wear condom and don't bbbj them etc) if she intends to continue..?

cos if don't allow her to continue, its like snatching the fun and money away from her? but if allow, later she may say I don't care? :confused: don't know leh...

[asdfghjkl]

better a girl whos honest than one whos not.. u should be thankful that she is courageous enough to admit it.. :o