What is the underlying motivation?

[Edyta]

This is a question about why married/attached man would want to ask other woman out on a one on one drinks/lunches/dinners etc, especially the woman belongs to the same work circle.

I can understand if its just to catchup/network professionally but if these appointments become too frequent/man gets too persistent it seems abit out of line. If its from a single man, its normal he might just want to go out with this woman to see how things can dev. But a married/attached man? Are they just looking for friends or there is always a sexual motive? If its just sex, why dont they go and look for paid services? Isnt it easier to have no strings attached as compared to asking a woman out to drinks and the woman treats him as platonic?

Just a matter of curiousity to understand better. These men are actually respectful and never try anything funny. I just wonder why, even after the woman backed off they sort of step up their effort.

Thanks for sharing.

[sammyboyfor]

They hope to fuck them.

This is a question about why married/attached man would want to ask other woman out on a one on one drinks/lunches/dinners etc,

[spidey7]

Edyta wat is wrong w married/attached man askg lady/ladies 4drinks/meals/etc? It is normal 2do if both parties agree. R u a female?

[Klein76]

I guess nothin wrong with that if you dont try anything funny, i think it just a simple dates to enjoy others company once in a while,Be it married or attached guy,they just need some one to pour their sorrow with...I believe not everything you tell your wifey or dear dear rite...lol...Not all dates are about beding rite Agree?

[OnGoingSearch]

I am pretty certain TS you are a female and u're posting the thread bcoz u're confused as you are in such a situation. My suggestion is stay away from the guy at all cost unless u dont mind being a 3rd party.

Short and simple answer. If a married/attached guy ask a woman out solo, he simply wants to get into her pants, period.

Elaborated answer, take myself for example. I am engaged and time to time, I have the urge to ask other girl/s out. I ask myself too, am I juz looking for companionship? No, plain old honest answer, I want to try my luck and see if I can experience courtship feel once more or at least a chance to get in bed.

Any hypocrite may feel free to disagree with me.

[Edyta]

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

[piero]

Straight forward. Free and challenging is sometime better than paid.
Why not try and if she agrees and kapish.. u have it

[slider_72]

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

[OnGoingSearch]

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

I sorta answered this in my previous reply but guess u didn't pick that up. I'll try to be explicit. We men are simple, when the head down there is thinking, all we need is a hole to fire into. However, at times we look for excitement or perhaps the word sexitement is more appropriate. This is when men lack the adrenaline that's felt when flirting and teasing with attractive women. That is something men can't get from paid sex. Hope that answer your question.

[cremecrm]

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Men like challenges. KC feeling

[sleepygordon]

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Some men are just plain cheapskate. They have bloated egos (my apologies if this offends anyone reading this) and they believe that they can get laid without the need to fork out a single cent.

For others the thrill is in the hunt and may not be all about the target.

And for the more rare and innocent ones, it is just having the attention of the opposite sex. Men enjoy the attention of women and vice versa.

For the tragic ones, it is to escape the one at home.

[naturegreen]

They hope to fuck them.

Haha I like your answer.

[astcrsv2]

The simplest answer is usually the right answer. ;)

[shiokpleasure]

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

I guess given the choice, i rather go hunting than supermarket. After getting my kill, roast and cook it on the spot for the great outdoor taste.

[Secret7]

These men most of them want free sex. Married already can go for drink with girl and bring wife along also can, right? Why must drink with girl alone unless want to tackle her. Some more act sincere, business like.

These type of man only want cheap kicks. Girls go out with them if serious type, sure get hurt.

Best you avoid these type of two timer. Fish plenty in the sea. Why go for second hand goods.

[Edyta]

A few of u mentioned free sex. The invites for drinks mean investing time n effort n money. Outcome is unknown. Price if it backfires means tarnishing his own reputation in the same business circle.

I like the comment about safari hunting meat, makes alot of sense.

Otherwise i find the whole thing very bizzare - invest in the chase, outcome unknown n risk of reputation and business.

Isnt it cheaper to go for paid services? Or safari meat hunting is very alluring?

[SammyNewbie]

I thought the bros had replied sufficiently to this already, but since it seems they have not...

I go for FLs and WLs... and service varies abit. Even if I could stick to one for good GFE and bonks because her service is good, I worry about KC.

I'm a rather gullible person, but even I know that WLs and FLs say what they say/do to me because they want my money.

Having sex with a woman that has the hots for you and likes you, has alot more sex appeal than having sex with an FL/WL. It also provides, the emotional intimacy of a relationship that FL/WL cannot provide for whatever reasons the man wants it eg. Marriage gone stale, got problems you know you just can't tell your wife without her nagging you to death, need a new person in your live that does more interesting stuff than your wife.

Basically, they hope to get the best aspects of a relationship without the commitment involved.

[slider_72]

Isnt it cheaper to go for paid services? Or safari meat hunting is very alluring?

Babe, it's not the price, it's the thrill of the kill.

If you are comparing with say the Geylang Thai fish tank whores, yeah it's probably cheaper to go Geylang to get your rocks off. But that is not the point. If money is the issue, all guys will stay home and DIY; it costs you nothing.

Another misconception you have is that whoring is cheaper by comparison. Again that depends on which category of whores the guy prefers. Whoring in Singapore can range from $50 from the Thai fish tank whores in Geylang to a tidy 4-figure sum per pop from some of the local escorts.

[sk8terboy]

Some men are just plain cheapskate. They have bloated egos (my apologies if this offends anyone reading this) and they believe that they can get laid without the need to fork out a single cent.

For others the thrill is in the hunt and may not be all about the target.

And for the more rare and innocent ones, it is just having the attention of the opposite sex. Men enjoy the attention of women and vice versa.

For the tragic ones, it is to escape the one at home.

Haha I like your breakdown of the population

[<<totally>>]

When a man ask a woman out for meal, this is the question that he is indirectly trying to ask you. " Am I the type of guy you will date? " He is using it to test water.

But if the guy is a more experienced one, normally he will back himself with an excuse of giving a treat. Thus the woman replied: "I'm not that free and blah blah blah....."

"Come on! You still remembered that day I bumped onto your table and caused the coffee/tea to spill on your files. I felt so bad causing you worked overtime just to redo that document. Each time I thought of it, I cannot really sleep that well. Just do me a kind favor, tonight at 7.30pm maybe a coffee treat around 15mins, I going out for a meeting now so see you later."

So before the time 7.30pm, he will call you just to ensure you are around. If you happened to stay behind, the man will think that he is right about you. You do have some interest in getting to know him.

The coffee treat will still turn to a dinner if the guy is persisted enough as time is towards his favor as the time goes, the woman will be hungry. Food stores and hawker centers will start to close after 8pm in the neighborhood. So most likely dinner has to eaten outside.

This is the part where I suggested, TS may want to take notice. If is a no motive, thank you dinner, most likely food court will be more than enough. However he insisted on going to somewhere above average, then he is out to impress you. So motive induced thoughts can be deduced.:cool:

During the dinner, the man will start to take out his question-air and start asking all the list of questions he wants to know. Next he will carefully say he and his wife married for some times and very loving.

But he will drop things/clues that things are not that good after all. As a cover to prove he is a good husband trying to fix things, he will ask you on your opinion about some things. He is using the victim/bothered to save card to position himself into your pitiful zone.

For woman to feel sorry for him, will tend to let down your own defense wall and gave him a chance to slip through. The guy will feel that it is already victory for him. After dinner, the guy will send you back home. Nothing will be out of place. But expected the guy to ask if anymore dinners can be arranging? This shows that his target is you already.

The process will repeated itself a number of times. Until he start to say he got feeling for you and blah blah blah.... and you know it lead to where if the woman is not strong in her decision.:o

For it is all about conquering the woman after all. To up the woman is a trill I supposed and a self gauged that he is still able to make woman fall for him.;)

[holedriver]

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

Exactly. Why go fishing when you can buy the fish from the market. Hunting is exciting because you are testing your skill and you do not know what exactly will be your catch.

[holedriver]

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

Exactly. Why go fishing when you can buy the fish from the market. Hunting is exciting because you are testing your skill and you do not know what exactly will be your catch.

[vent]

Exactly. Why go fishing when you can buy the fish from the market. Hunting is exciting because you are testing your skill and you do not know what exactly will be your catch.

maybe something that can bite back.etc crocodile:)

[littlepok]

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

like that more challenging and kinky. maybe can screw in office in OL attire, half naked instead of full. hope can be FB then can screw FOC also. paid services no GF feeling mah. then got time constraint. when transaction is too neat, feel too commercialised.

man are 犯贱 bottomline. they know all these crap can jeopardise their marriage, relationship and maybe 1/2 of their assets but they still go ahead. little bro rulez! if not, how does 武则天 come to power? haha

[see see only]

They hope to fuck them.

As a public well known person like our boss here … he opt to give a simple one sided opinion ;)

However TS don’t felt that way … me pretty sure there is a motive behind everything but not necessary always “SEX” related.

As I used to have dinner with my female ex-colleagues …. but ultimately I was actually building up a certain friendship with them so that if I go back to do business with the company, I can get some un-told advantages.

If not business, at least I could improve my social circle. However to be very honest, I would not mind …. hehehehehe …. progressing to ... :p:D ... if they give me some kind of the “SEX” signal :rolleyes: (with the petty one of cos)

[Edyta]

Thank u v mch guys. I've got all my answers :)