Excessive Porn Masturbation Will Ruin Your Life!

[gooner8]

I have stop watching porn and masturbating to it for a week and I hope to abstain from it forever. Excessive porn masturbation will ruin your life and I just want to help and share with you my Singaporean bros its dangers. For those who feel I am a killjoy, please feel free to zap me!

There is nothing wrong with masturbation but excessive masturbation will cause you problems, remember that our semen can bring forth life and how much energy our body must expend to create this. The main loss of ejaculation is zinc, a vital nutrient of our body. Back to masturbation to porn and its ill effects. To bros out there who are suffering from it, have the courage to face up to the problem and try to solve it.

This is a story from another forum and there are thousands of men with the same problem. It is quite similar to my problem as well.

<<Hi, I'm 33 years old and I have been masturbating for almost 20 years, most of the time in the company of porn. I often used to watch porn for hours. I'm experiencing the same issue: my erections became weaker and weaker during the last years. I got to the point that real life women don't turn me on that much in order to achieve a strong erection and be able to sustain a sexual intercourse. Anyway, I got involuntary pretty strong erections almost every night but they fade off shortly after I wake up.

I'm healthy otherwise, not overweight, non-smoker, so I think it is the porn addiction and masturbation habit that brought me into this situation. It looks like my habit done over and over again for so many years has seriously altered my sexual sensitivity to real life women and to normal intercourse.

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[gooner8]

From another foummer of the forum:

Wow I wish i stumbled across this forum years ago! I hope sharing my experience will help.I am a recovering porn addict!! I have been slapping the salami almost everyday since age 14 and every single time I used porn to do it. First it was Playboy mags, then Hustler mags, then movies, then websites. With the internet I was always able to find new material as my tastes grew raunchier and raunchier. I think my addiction was the reason I did not lose my virginity until I was 27. The Girls of Porn were easy and took away any motivation to seek out a real relationship. Another reason is when I compare my average size rod to those monsters in porn it made feel inadequate and took away any confidence I would of had with real girls in the first place. When I was 27 I met a totally amazing women and when the time came for you know....I failed miserably. I could not stay hard enough for long enough to penetrate her. Luckily for me she took it real well (she thought it was the condoms at first) and I was able to do other things to please her (if you don't have in the hips you better have it in the lips). Despite my failures in the sack and even though I could still always get off with porn and only alone, we became real close. I was honest about my habits and we worked at it and overtime I gained confidence and learned how to be with her completely. If it were not for her love and understanding this would of been my first and only attempt at a relationship with a real women. It took about a year of trial and error. This is how we did it.
The first thing I tried was not watching porn and not masturbating. This helped and I was able to have intercourse with her even though I could not finish.This is when I noticed that a vagina is very different from my dry calloused hand. I never used to lube up I was always Mr. Dry Rub and The Angry Inch!! I still would fall off the wagon from time to time but one day when I did, I practiced with a condom with lube and I kept practicing. My solo sessions now became practice sessions. We started to watch a little porn together (it was nothing to gross though) and we would masturbate together soon I became comfortable enough to finish myself off in her presence. This is when she told me I squeezed my penis to hard and no vagina in the world could recreate that feeling. She suggested I practice with a lighter grip, with the condoms and always with lube. It took time but did manage to change my grip I went from squeezing my whole penis with my whole hand really hard to gently stroking the shaft with a three finger grip (not using my thumb and index finger). During my practice sessions I kept watching porn then one day I stumbled upon some cream pie porn!! You see up until then in all the porn I watched the male would always ejaculate in the females mouth, or on her face, or her breasts or her butt. Now my girlfriend was okay with most of those places when I would finish myself off but I began to watch only cream pie porn after all this was the end result I was striving for!! Obviously we were still using condoms for birth control just in case I happened to finish but you get the idea. Another thing I started doing was if I wanted to watch porn I would not allow myself to masturbate! I could masturbate anytime I wanted as long as I did not watch porn! This was retraining my brain to use my own imagination. Soon after this I was able to finish inside her and man oh man!!! it was awesome!! she cried I cried WOW!! She eventually went on birth control and we were making actual cream pies every day!!!

Guys- nothing beats the real thing get out there find a partner, work on your techniques don't give up there are plenty of fish in the sea!!! Remember porn is just like any drug out there good or bad it can be abused! ..

[bonkster]

Though i don't fully agree with your re-training, good thread to warn our fine young men on the downside of overdoing porn n masturbation ;)

[gooner8]

Though i don't fully agree with your re-training, good thread to warn our fine young men on the downside of overdoing porn n masturbation ;)

The most prolific producers of porn Japan has a huge problem..Why???

<<As of March 2009, Japan's total population stood at just over 127 million, but that figure is projected to decline to 95 million by 2050. And if more drastic measures fail to encourage people to have sex - and hence children - then there will be a mere 47.7 million Japanese at the turn of the next century.

According to the survey of 671 men and 869 women, issued by the Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare, 35.1 per cent of men aged 16 to 19 said they are not interested in or averse to sex, more than double the 17.5 per cent of men in the previous study in 2008.

"Obviously, the most important reason for Japan's declining birth rate is that people are not having sex," Dr. Kunio Kitamura, head of the Japan Family Planning Association, told The Daily Telegraph.
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[wally888]

Not excessive & do in moderation is key. Most important is to have a life....especially social ones. U never know how beautiful the world is outside until u tried! ;)

[gooner8]

Not excessive & do in moderation is key. Most important is to have a life....especially social ones. U never know how beautiful the world is outside until u tried! ;)

You are fortunate if you can do it in moderation bro. Sadly porn can be seriously addictive, some say more than heroin. For me I need to abstain from it completely.
Some can do it in moderation but some will forever inself denial.

[gooner8]

Am I the only person with this problem here??:rolleyes:

[mussao]

the most prolific producers of porn japan has a huge problem..why???

<<as of march 2009, japan's total population stood at just over 127 million, but that figure is projected to decline to 95 million by 2050. And if more drastic measures fail to encourage people to have sex - and hence children - then there will be a mere 47.7 million japanese at the turn of the next century.

According to the survey of 671 men and 869 women, issued by the ministry of health, labour and welfare, 35.1 per cent of men aged 16 to 19 said they are not interested in or averse to sex, more than double the 17.5 per cent of men in the previous study in 2008.

"obviously, the most important reason for japan's declining birth rate is that people are not having sex," dr. Kunio kitamura, head of the japan family planning association, told the daily telegraph.
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more japanese women for me..hehehe

[abchinese]

if u need help: http://www.wecare.org.sg/

[msGot]

Hey gooner8,

I'm pretty sure you aren't alone in this area yah? Kudos to you for starting a thread like this! Such good, well-meaning intentions to alert all of us to something we so very often need a reminder of: Always focus on what sex is essentially meant for-to establish that bond between two lovers! Guess that's why they call it making love, bla bla bla, hate to preach. Serious porn addicition really has its adverse effects- I can imagine how many rapists in the world would have started becoming obsessed or overly obsessed with porn first before the eventual misdeed. Some say it's a boon for there to be such a trade like prostitution! In fact, I think one of the arguments brought forth to push for the legalization of prostitution in S'pore (and I guess in other countries as well) is the idea that it is an outlet for guys, who we very well know have sexual needs from time to time! Going off point already.

Hope you reach your established goals eventually, however slowly it might take. Cheers.

[bleedingknight]

I know for fact that you are not alone...or should i have used the word 'we'. Anyways kudos for taking the effort and bringing this out.

[KiSiaoD]

I love masterbation with porn. I can shake it out for hours before I shoot.... its god damm intense.... masterbation is one of the greatest joy of life....

porn is great. Shake to it, dream of it..... yummy... those tits, ass, cunt, licking, sucking....urrg.....

many prostitute in Singapore, are willing to do what porn star does..... so bros, you can go out and enjoy it.

Be clear it is not masterbation to porn that is the problem. it is excessive shooting and long hours that is the problem.

If you go out have sex as young as 14, have it as many times and as long hours as you do with the masterbation to porn movies, you face the same problem... believe me, it will result in the same thing.

So, we have to start sex later, and do not indulge in excessive shooting and sex... you will be fine...

Do not blame porn, blame excessive and long hour sex....

[venomlove]

I have this problem too and its true, my erections are getting weaker and weaker to the extent of not being hard enuf for sexual penetration. Its a big blow to oneself when r other half notice dis problem too.
So my new year resolution will be to stop jerking off porn completely, hopefully i'll be able to pull it off and see an improvement in my sexual performance.
Kudos to TS for starting dis thread, good to noe i'm not alone...

[maxferes]

from a more TCM (traditional chinese medicine) POV,

I am not trained in TCM but have bits and pieces of knowledge.

I think its possible that the excessive masturbation is jus over usage of the Shen Qi (qi from kidneys).

anyone tried to BU (improve) Shen Qi by chinese herbs?

[HunterJ]

Nothing in excessive is good. Find a balance between life. Making out with a woman is definitely much more better compared to doing it yourself. Enjoy !

[gooner8]

I have this problem too and its true, my erections are getting weaker and weaker to the extent of not being hard enuf for sexual penetration. Its a big blow to oneself when r other half notice dis problem too.
So my new year resolution will be to stop jerking off porn completely, hopefully i'll be able to pull it off and see an improvement in my sexual performance.
Kudos to TS for starting dis thread, good to noe i'm not alone...

Bro, I am into my second week of no Porn Masturbation and I do feel my weapon getting more powerful when facing real woman. Porn is not real , just fantasies and the easy access makes it horrible. With too much porn, no girls, except those in the porn videos and their hardcore porn grade service, will excite you. And the more you watch, you will want the more hardcore stuff which will numb you further.
Your other half deserves better from you. All the best for your resolution bro.

[gooner8]

Hey gooner8,

I'm pretty sure you aren't alone in this area yah? Kudos to you for starting a thread like this! Such good, well-meaning intentions to alert all of us to something we so very often need a reminder of: Always focus on what sex is essentially meant for-to establish that bond between two lovers! Guess that's why they call it making love, bla bla bla, hate to preach. Serious porn addicition really has its adverse effects- I can imagine how many rapists in the world would have started becoming obsessed or overly obsessed with porn first before the eventual misdeed. Some say it's a boon for there to be such a trade like prostitution! In fact, I think one of the arguments brought forth to push for the legalization of prostitution in S'pore (and I guess in other countries as well) is the idea that it is an outlet for guys, who we very well know have sexual needs from time to time! Going off point already.

Hope you reach your established goals eventually, however slowly it might take. Cheers.

Thanks bro, I am on the road to recovery. Porn can really screw up the way we view women.

[gooner8]

I have just deleted all my porn videos and damn, I didnt know I have downloaded so many freaking porn vids over the years!:(

[David Lim]

Good post bro. If you find your life just revolve around porn , masturbation and sex, you have a problem.

[silentthrust]

Omg. Happened to me! Too much kills the real experience! DAMN THE INTERNET AND SMARTPHONES. I shall hold back the battle an build an army before each war!

* psst. Anyway just to share with bros here. Www.tubetubetube.com just makes my iPhone worth it. Hahaha

[wongcw84]

Anyway......anyone who has stop mastuburting n see the good long term effect, share it

i do come acrross an article saying that excessive masrtuburation can lead to prostate cancer