Problems cumming during sex, but fine when masturbating

[4554551n]

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?

[fukbuddy]

Bro,

seems like you are concentrating too much about whether you cum or not.

Bonking is about mutual fun and excitment, don't worry so much about the ending but the process....

And masterbation can decrease the number of times you can cum and amount of cum.

If you have just masterbated, ask a gal strip naked in front of you also diff to cum one lah....

[drider]

The problem is when ur masturbating. u stimulate a diff part of ur penis. also mentally ur tuned to cum when masterbate. so the way to solve this is to have more real SEX! that is all. if not go see a shrink.:D

[Sex4Love]

your problem maybe due to some kind of performance anxiety, after you stimulate your girl, ask her to stimulate you back in return and guide her how you want her to make you high

Make love more, don't make more enemies (http://sextisfaction.wordpress.com)

[NokiaUser82]

Wah bro i totally opp of what u're experiencing. Now i need girls to help me wank den "Eh Chut"..i ownself D.I.Y "Buay Chut"...anyway i think the best solution is to see doctor..

[makka111]

Fuck more. Practice makes perfect. Get the girl to suck your cock to make it big right before penetration. It should do the trick.

[freezetheDB]

my cock is hardest during blowjob

this is the best stimulator

[loveme691234]

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?
Interesting problem.
Have you tried the doctors yet?

Cheers.

[maxman]

The problem is when ur masturbating. u stimulate a diff part of ur penis. also mentally ur tuned to cum when masterbate. so the way to solve this is to have more real SEX! that is all. if not go see a shrink.:D

I also think that thi is a case of conditioning. In the same way, men who frequent prostitutes have difficulty forming a genuine sincere relationship with women.

[HayHot]

Interesting problem.
Have you tried the doctors yet?

Cheers.

Ya, if you can cum in the doctors, you should be fine...... :rolleyes:
Else you really have a big problem... :cool:

[soulless]

bro also long as u can cum should be ok.. hahah maybe try to play less with ur hands , u will enjoy sex more..

[77guy]

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?

I have similar problem too...out of 10 times i f..k, 8 times cant cum, need the gal to mast for me to finish the job.

[Johanna]

Best is stop all your wanking coz the dick skin is getting less sensitive everytime u rub it. Most likely ur dick skin/nerve got no feel while bonking. Try to use your mind to fantasize while bonking....hope it'll help.

[Oralcraz]

Mine is similar but not this bad. During HJ, no problem. During sex, initially very hard on. By the time put on CD, soften and then difficult to get hard again. Sometimes can get back the hardness in 5-10 mins, sometimes just cannot and that's it. Doing raw is no problem. I normally try to maintain my erection when putting on CD by imagining stimulating scenario. For yr case, it could be the condom part that is affecting you. Is either the putting on part that put you off (like mine) or the condom is too thick that it is affecting the stimulation. Try thinner condom. Good luck.

[4554551n]

my FB doesnt like oral unfortunately. And girls do HJ for me like cmi. I do myself then can.

[pokeman71]

I had this problem sometime 18yrs back. When my first bonk on 3gals. I cant cum when fucking them end up either I wank myself off or the gal suck me dry. Even suck me dry is i wank till want to cum liao she finish it off for me.

TS, dun worry la, when time come and your experience get more you will cum in due time.

Last time i tot HJ is the best, after all this yrs, one week no make with my lover, I really cock itch.

Haha, just skip lesson on tuesday to bonk my lover. Sperm shoot up the head.

[alvin36]

I've been watching porn and wanking myself for years, and never had problems cumming. However, i've had a few sexual encounters in the past year.

My first time, i came in 30seconds (damn lao kuey i know), even with a condom. But subsequently, i found that i cant cum...even after going nonstop for 10mins+. Even after the girl came, i couldnt cum. And i had to apologize and said i need to masturbate. Which i did, and i came. I always use a condom btw.

Also, when i finger/oral the girl, shes enjoying herself, and im somewhat enjoying myself, but my dick tends to lose part of its erection when im doing that. Such that when shes high and ready to be penetrated, my dick isnt. Is this a common problem? Any ways of fixing it?


is normal when you finger / lick the gal, your dick become soft.... this is the time that the gal must do some work too. the gal must be passionate, touch your dick when you licking her, or 69 with you.

if she did not do anything... then is normal your dick get soft.

[alvin36]

Mine is similar but not this bad. During HJ, no problem. During sex, initially very hard on. By the time put on CD, soften and then difficult to get hard again. Sometimes can get back the hardness in 5-10 mins, sometimes just cannot and that's it. Doing raw is no problem. I normally try to maintain my erection when putting on CD by imagining stimulating scenario. For yr case, it could be the condom part that is affecting you. Is either the putting on part that put you off (like mine) or the condom is too thick that it is affecting the stimulation. Try thinner condom. Good luck.

sometimes I think.... some guys become soft during penetration.... but NO guys will become soft during blow job. right ??

does this mean that our dick prefer mouth sensation than pussy ??

who has ever become soft during BJ ??

[tk-king]

sometimes I think.... some guys become soft during penetration.... but NO guys will become soft during blow job. right ??

does this mean that our dick prefer mouth sensation than pussy ??

who has ever become soft during BJ ??

KO b4, super tired, yet FB still on for 2nd round
next day i return pleasure until my tongue sore then she forgive :(

back to topic
practice few months and problem will resolve itself

[Oralcraz]

sometimes I think.... some guys become soft during penetration.... but NO guys will become soft during blow job. right ??
does this mean that our dick prefer mouth sensation than pussy ??
who has ever become soft during BJ ??

I seldom had oral done on me. So, I can't answer that. However, during intercourse with CD ... yes sometimes will loose erection due to lost of sensation but if raw, I had never loose erection.

[blk437]

I had this problem also. Can cum easily when masturbation but cannot cum or gone soft while bonking my wife.

1st reason i can think of is i wanked too much to porn.

2nd reason i can think of is too much stress and things in my brain thus causing it to become soft n unable to cum.

I got no problem maintaining hard on and cum when bonking my wife while we are on holiday overseas. (got my second baby boy after that :) )

Fantasizing while bonking helps provided your mental is strong enough to maintain the fantasy in your brain till you cum.