warbird
24-05-2010, 05:27 PM
I'm starting this new thread bcos I was afflicted w/ a common disease among men called "sharking." But being a shark aka chi ko pek aka 大色狼 is but a symptom n sign of a more intractable n very prevalent underlying problem.:(
Most of us agonize over the past n worry abt the future n we pursue our OUTER PURPOSE of fame, money, status, security, sex, love, happiness, religious beliefs, etc. n we always depend on something OUTSIDE of ourselves. Let me be blunt. Nothing external to u is 100% dependable n fulfilling, not even ur family, lover or beloved religion. You'll be very disappointed bcos all external things r ephemeral n will vanish sooner or later...or u could depart first.
The solution, I hv found, is to achieve ur INNER PURPOSE of being ur TRUE SELF, to live in the eternal present moment, one moment at a time, which is the ONLY reality. You may pursue ur OUTER PURPOSE, whatever it is, for fun n adventure. But u must be totally detached from its outcome. Ironically, letting go of wat u want is the only way to get it.:p
Many yrs ago, I thought if only I could become independently wealthy n had a nice family, I would be contented n happy. I was wrong.
Then 1 1/2 yrs ago I thought if only I could taste a few chio pussies of my type I would be whole n fulfilled. I was wrong again. But my dissatisfaction n my need for ever more pussies has led me to realize the importance of being my TRUE SELF. I like to say a big thank u to all my past n current BAO-ees for being a pivotal factor in leading me to see the LIGHT n towards the RIGHT PATH. Ths, hehehe.;)
A few days ago, I received the following email from an Ang Mo guru from Gotham country. He is on to something that I also discovered a short time ago. I hv taken the liberty to add my personal perspective in parentheses.
Hi Bro Warbird,
I want to tell you about a "dark" period of my life....
My "sharking" days.
Do you remember me? At the bars... the clubs... parties... at the festivals...
(I know exactly where u r coming from. My frens, SBF bros n I r also sharking for chio pussies in KTVs/HFJs, schools, etc., in SIN, PRC n elsewhere...)
Gliding through the crowd, scanning, scanning.
No eye contact with the other guys, just a critical, objectifying, cold eyed gaze, looking for...
Women. "Hot" women, to be exact.
(Yeah, are u describing me? I'm always looking for chio n sexy pussies of MY TYPE. I used to dehumanize these gals n view them as prime meat, visualizing them being stark naked, trying to gauge the dimensions of her body parts, including her HT, WT, cup size, arms n legs n butt size, even trying to picture the appearance, tightness n wetness of their pussies...and how they would respond n scream when they r in continuously orgasmic state or COS, hahaha.)
Yeah, I used to be "that guy." My eyes would rest on one woman after the other, before dismissing her and moving on to the next. What about her? Nah, her hair looks kind of stringy. Next...
Hmm, now THIS girl is cute... eh... a bit too old for me. Next....
Other men weren't really fellow human beings to me - they were "obstacles," "competition" or "cockblocks."
( Wow, we hv a lot in common! I'm always trying to find MY TYPE of pussies: Young, chio, fair n tall w/ natural B/C boobs, proportionate body parts including head, neck, torso, waist, butt n limbs. I prefer those who r smart, educated. A Fujian accent is a plus. A virgin is an added bonus of course. Call me asap if u find such a gal, pls.)
That's what I mean by "sharking." And those were some dark days, because on the inside, I was trying to fill a "hole" inside, and I was suffering.
(You're right on, guru. I'm a "shark" or "predator" or "chi ko pek" or “大色狼。” But I'm not apologetic n hv no qualms for being such a person. I'm a MAN.)
And if you've ever experienced this - the feeling of desperately looking to find the women you can "get"... then you know how much it sucks to be "sharking" - whether you admit it to yourself or not...
It wasn't until my partner XX and I were working on what would eventually be the XYZ program, our Inner Game Training Model, that I suddenly had a realization that changed my life... and may end up changing yours, too.
Are you ready?
Here it is.
(Yes, there were periods when I was needy n desperately looking for chio pussies. Not anymore as my plate is overflowing...hehehe.)
You will *never* be fulfilled by something OUTSIDE of yourself.
I'll say it again.
You will *NEVER* be fulfilled by something OUTSIDE of yourself.
In other words, until you can truly enjoy exactly what's going on, INDEPENDENT of external circumstances, then your fulfillment is EXTERNALLY DEFINED.
When I got this, it became clear that my "sharking" days were over.
I mean, who cares how many "hot women" I "get" if I still felt empty on the inside?
And so I stopped looking outside myself for satisfaction, and focused on CREATING fulfillment through my day-to-day enjoyment of WHATEVER was happening - independent of the external circumstances... and it made a HUGE difference in my happiness, and my success with women.
(RIGHT ON. Even w/ my plate overflowing, I was still not completely satisfied bcos I wanted even more, although I was already going beyond my physical limits...my body very tired but my mind still very hungry! Fortunately, I hv realized the significance of achieving the INNER PURPOSE of being my TRUE SELF. I now pursue my OUTER PURPOSE merely for fun n adventure n I'm completely detached from the outcome. 置结果于度外， 置胜败于度外， 置生死于度外。 Having such a MANLY n FEARLESS attitude attracts all the good things in life, including women.:D
THE BREAKTHROUGH I GOT
The second stage of our Inner Game Training Model is what did it for me. We call this "Appreciation." By "Appreciation", we mean embracing, accepting, and being a "yes" to whatever it is we're experiencing .
Yes... even if it's sadness, anger, joy, fear, doubt, excitement, turn on or frustration.
Without full and complete Appreciation for where you are at
and who you are with,
in every given moment,
to some degree,
YOU are SUFFERING.
When I AM fully Appreciating and embracing whatever's happening in any given moment, it doesn't matter WHAT my life circumstances are, or how ANY woman relates to me.
And guess what?
The more I put my attention on celebrating the women AND the men around me, the women who see me having fun, celebrating them and everyone else, become attracted and intrigued, and actually seek Me out...
(Yes, we all must live in the eternal present moment which is the ONLY reality.)
TRY THIS QUICK EXERCISE
Next time you're at a party or social event, stop seeking out the hotties, and focus on enjoying EVERYONE you meet - the guys, the old ladies, babies... Seriously, EVERYONE you meet. Make it a game to find out what you can celebrate, enjoy and appreciate about each person you come into contact with.
And from this place, notice what kind of a difference it makes in the quality of your interactions, and of your evening. As you cultivate this ability, you'll find yourself ATTRACTING the hotties, rather than trying to go "GET" them.
Besides... who needs to "shark" when all the fish are coming right to you?
(Great advice. I'm working diligently towards achieving just that. I hv found meditation n self hypnosis to be extremely helpful. By being such an "enlightened real man," one will attract not only women, but also happiness, fulfillment, good health n wealth, etc.)
Best,
Your Guru
(Ths u for ur great advice n guidance. I'm improving every hr, every day, in every way...)
BTW, I would appreciate comments n criticisms from all samsters.
Cheers!
Bro WB
PS: I can only post infrequently due to mu heavy work load, pls continue the discussions in my absence.
Most of us agonize over the past n worry abt the future n we pursue our OUTER PURPOSE of fame, money, status, security, sex, love, happiness, religious beliefs, etc. n we always depend on something OUTSIDE of ourselves. Let me be blunt. Nothing external to u is 100% dependable n fulfilling, not even ur family, lover or beloved religion. You'll be very disappointed bcos all external things r ephemeral n will vanish sooner or later...or u could depart first.
The solution, I hv found, is to achieve ur INNER PURPOSE of being ur TRUE SELF, to live in the eternal present moment, one moment at a time, which is the ONLY reality. You may pursue ur OUTER PURPOSE, whatever it is, for fun n adventure. But u must be totally detached from its outcome. Ironically, letting go of wat u want is the only way to get it.:p
Many yrs ago, I thought if only I could become independently wealthy n had a nice family, I would be contented n happy. I was wrong.
Then 1 1/2 yrs ago I thought if only I could taste a few chio pussies of my type I would be whole n fulfilled. I was wrong again. But my dissatisfaction n my need for ever more pussies has led me to realize the importance of being my TRUE SELF. I like to say a big thank u to all my past n current BAO-ees for being a pivotal factor in leading me to see the LIGHT n towards the RIGHT PATH. Ths, hehehe.;)
A few days ago, I received the following email from an Ang Mo guru from Gotham country. He is on to something that I also discovered a short time ago. I hv taken the liberty to add my personal perspective in parentheses.
Hi Bro Warbird,
I want to tell you about a "dark" period of my life....
My "sharking" days.
Do you remember me? At the bars... the clubs... parties... at the festivals...
(I know exactly where u r coming from. My frens, SBF bros n I r also sharking for chio pussies in KTVs/HFJs, schools, etc., in SIN, PRC n elsewhere...)
Gliding through the crowd, scanning, scanning.
No eye contact with the other guys, just a critical, objectifying, cold eyed gaze, looking for...
Women. "Hot" women, to be exact.
(Yeah, are u describing me? I'm always looking for chio n sexy pussies of MY TYPE. I used to dehumanize these gals n view them as prime meat, visualizing them being stark naked, trying to gauge the dimensions of her body parts, including her HT, WT, cup size, arms n legs n butt size, even trying to picture the appearance, tightness n wetness of their pussies...and how they would respond n scream when they r in continuously orgasmic state or COS, hahaha.)
Yeah, I used to be "that guy." My eyes would rest on one woman after the other, before dismissing her and moving on to the next. What about her? Nah, her hair looks kind of stringy. Next...
Hmm, now THIS girl is cute... eh... a bit too old for me. Next....
Other men weren't really fellow human beings to me - they were "obstacles," "competition" or "cockblocks."
( Wow, we hv a lot in common! I'm always trying to find MY TYPE of pussies: Young, chio, fair n tall w/ natural B/C boobs, proportionate body parts including head, neck, torso, waist, butt n limbs. I prefer those who r smart, educated. A Fujian accent is a plus. A virgin is an added bonus of course. Call me asap if u find such a gal, pls.)
That's what I mean by "sharking." And those were some dark days, because on the inside, I was trying to fill a "hole" inside, and I was suffering.
(You're right on, guru. I'm a "shark" or "predator" or "chi ko pek" or “大色狼。” But I'm not apologetic n hv no qualms for being such a person. I'm a MAN.)
And if you've ever experienced this - the feeling of desperately looking to find the women you can "get"... then you know how much it sucks to be "sharking" - whether you admit it to yourself or not...
It wasn't until my partner XX and I were working on what would eventually be the XYZ program, our Inner Game Training Model, that I suddenly had a realization that changed my life... and may end up changing yours, too.
Are you ready?
Here it is.
(Yes, there were periods when I was needy n desperately looking for chio pussies. Not anymore as my plate is overflowing...hehehe.)
You will *never* be fulfilled by something OUTSIDE of yourself.
I'll say it again.
You will *NEVER* be fulfilled by something OUTSIDE of yourself.
In other words, until you can truly enjoy exactly what's going on, INDEPENDENT of external circumstances, then your fulfillment is EXTERNALLY DEFINED.
When I got this, it became clear that my "sharking" days were over.
I mean, who cares how many "hot women" I "get" if I still felt empty on the inside?
And so I stopped looking outside myself for satisfaction, and focused on CREATING fulfillment through my day-to-day enjoyment of WHATEVER was happening - independent of the external circumstances... and it made a HUGE difference in my happiness, and my success with women.
(RIGHT ON. Even w/ my plate overflowing, I was still not completely satisfied bcos I wanted even more, although I was already going beyond my physical limits...my body very tired but my mind still very hungry! Fortunately, I hv realized the significance of achieving the INNER PURPOSE of being my TRUE SELF. I now pursue my OUTER PURPOSE merely for fun n adventure n I'm completely detached from the outcome. 置结果于度外， 置胜败于度外， 置生死于度外。 Having such a MANLY n FEARLESS attitude attracts all the good things in life, including women.:D
THE BREAKTHROUGH I GOT
The second stage of our Inner Game Training Model is what did it for me. We call this "Appreciation." By "Appreciation", we mean embracing, accepting, and being a "yes" to whatever it is we're experiencing .
Yes... even if it's sadness, anger, joy, fear, doubt, excitement, turn on or frustration.
Without full and complete Appreciation for where you are at
and who you are with,
in every given moment,
to some degree,
YOU are SUFFERING.
When I AM fully Appreciating and embracing whatever's happening in any given moment, it doesn't matter WHAT my life circumstances are, or how ANY woman relates to me.
And guess what?
The more I put my attention on celebrating the women AND the men around me, the women who see me having fun, celebrating them and everyone else, become attracted and intrigued, and actually seek Me out...
(Yes, we all must live in the eternal present moment which is the ONLY reality.)
TRY THIS QUICK EXERCISE
Next time you're at a party or social event, stop seeking out the hotties, and focus on enjoying EVERYONE you meet - the guys, the old ladies, babies... Seriously, EVERYONE you meet. Make it a game to find out what you can celebrate, enjoy and appreciate about each person you come into contact with.
And from this place, notice what kind of a difference it makes in the quality of your interactions, and of your evening. As you cultivate this ability, you'll find yourself ATTRACTING the hotties, rather than trying to go "GET" them.
Besides... who needs to "shark" when all the fish are coming right to you?
(Great advice. I'm working diligently towards achieving just that. I hv found meditation n self hypnosis to be extremely helpful. By being such an "enlightened real man," one will attract not only women, but also happiness, fulfillment, good health n wealth, etc.)
Best,
Your Guru
(Ths u for ur great advice n guidance. I'm improving every hr, every day, in every way...)
BTW, I would appreciate comments n criticisms from all samsters.
Cheers!
Bro WB
PS: I can only post infrequently due to mu heavy work load, pls continue the discussions in my absence.