Painful experience after sex

[ttt5]

My wife is no longer a virgin and had already given birth a few years ago.

Why does my wife complain of pain in her vagina after every making love sessions ?

Normally, she would laid on her back and I would make her very wet before penetrating her in missionary position (me on top). She does not feel any pain at this stage when I enter her.

She feel painful when the following happens:
a) when I raise my body until almost 90 degrees to her body (penis still in her)
b) without condom, I thrust for a long while before she complain of pain
c) with condom, after thrusting for a short time

Please advise. Thank you.

[ttt5]

Anyone had any idea ? Please help. Thanks

[daniely4]

How old is your wife?
couple of possible reasons, depending on her age.
Is her pain superficial, or she feels a deep ache?
How long has she felt like this?

>45yrs old: 1)perimenopausal/postmenopausal: low oestrogens resulting in dryness. Superficial pain felt.

2) deep pain felt: usually malignancy, cervical cancer. Please get a pap smear.

3)associated symptoms of incontinence or constipation: uterine prolapse, pls see a gynae

I strongly suggest you bring your wife down to see her gynae.

[AfA_hmor]

try lubricant. KY jelly.

[pewpew]

How tall is your wife coz previously i had a gf around 150cm and everytime while having sex, she complains pain too and have no choice but to NOT fully insert into her due to my little bro.

Sometime, you can't over-estimate the depth of the warm loving hole :)

[fee3fow]

Best is bring her down to the doctor and tell him the problem. The pain could means alot of things

[ttt5]

Thank you for all the advices. bros. Definitely going to the doctor soon.

My wife is about 160cm and is 20 plus when we first start making love.

At first, we were doing 5 or 6 times each night, so when she complain of pain, I thought her private part is very sore just like my penis. She prefer to do raw as using condom is painful also.

My entire penis is covered by long and coarse pubic hair. Is it possible that my pubic hair is causing the pain for my wife when I do her raw?

[AfA_hmor]

your entire penis?

[fee3fow]

LOL so hairy :confused:

[verytimid]

It could be due to excessive sex, if u r able to make love 5-6 times a night. Her vagina might dry off in the process of intercourse. Another possibility is due to menstruation, before a woman's period her vagina will become thinner and this more prone to pain. Happened to me once, too much thrusting and made her pain. Lastly, I had the same experience when I changed my thrusting angle and she shouted in pain, that was because my penis wasn't straight.

[sammyboyfor]

Thank you for all the advices. bros. Definitely going to the doctor soon.


Should be "Thank you for all the ADVICE.".

"Advice" is a non countable noun. You don't add an "s" to make it plural.


Why Is Sexual Intercourse Painful? Pain and Discomfort During Sex (http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/pelvicpain/a/painfulsexualin.htm)

A number of conditions may cause pain and / or discomfort during sexual intercourse. These conditions include:

Vaginal Infection

Certain vaginal infections such as vaginal yeast infections and trichomoniasis are often present without noticeable symptoms. However during sexual intercourse, the rubbing motion of the penis against the vagina and genitalia sometimes causes the symptoms of these vaginal infections to intensify causing stinging and burning. Genital herpes sores are another frequent cause of pain during sex.

See also: A Woman's Guide to Vaginal Infections and Vaginitis

Vaginal Irritation

Many products contain irritants which can cause vaginal irritation leading to discomfort or pain during vaginal sexual intercourse. These include:

* Any contraceptive foams, creams, or jellies
* Allergic reactions to condoms, diaphragms, or latex gloves
* Vaginal deodorant sprays
* Scented tampons
* Deodorant soaps
* Laundry detergents in sensitive individuals
* Excessive vaginal douching

Vaginal Dryness

Vaginal dryness often causes painful sexual intercourse. Normal vaginal lubrication is a given for most women; however, during certain times the vagina may be dry and make vaginal penetration painful. Lack of vaginal lubrication can be caused by several factors including:

* Trying to achieve vaginal penetration too fast before enough stimulation has occurred to allow normal vaginal lubrication to take place;
* Feeling nervous or tense about the sexual experience can slow down the release of vaginal lubrication;
* Using a condom may make vaginal intercourse difficult without the addition of a vaginal lubricant such as AstroGlide, K-Y Jelly, and other products. Saliva is an acceptable for vaginal lubrication; however, never use a petroleum-based product such as Vaseline (petroleum products can cause deterioration of condoms and also may create a breeding ground for vaginal infections)
* Hormonal imbalance during menopause or the years preceding menopause can cause vaginal dryness, as can hormonal imbalance following childbirth. This hormonal imbalance is caused by a decrease in normal estrogen levels which can cause the walls of the vagina to become dry. Women experiencing vaginal dryness for these reasons should use one of the vaginal lubrication methods listed above. Women in menopause with severe vaginal dryness should talk to their health care provider about a prescribed estrogen cream to be used vaginally.

See also: Before You Buy Vaginal Lubricants

Vaginal Tightness

Occasionally this happens when you feel tense, or are not fully relaxed when penetration occurs. Difficulty penetrating a tight vagina can happen even when vaginal lubrication is not a problem. Often, the first few times you engage in sexual intercourse, the vagina may be tight due to an unstretched hymen and cause pain at the time of penetration.

Sometimes a more severe condition called vaginismus is responsible for vaginal tightness; women with vaginismus experience strong, involuntary muscle spasms of the vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse or vaginal penetration by any object including fingers and tampons.

Pain of the Clitoris

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female genitalia. Gentle touching or rubbing of the clitoris is extremely pleasurable for some women, while for others it is unbearably painful. Clitoral pain may also occur due to poor hygiene; vaginal secretions may collect under the clitoral hood and if not carefully washed away may lead to pain.

See also: The Clitoral Truth

Pelvic Pain

Occasionally a women will experience pelvic pain upon deep, thrusting penetration. Many conditions may cause this pain including:

* Tears in the ligaments that support the uterus (causes include problems during childbirth, inappropriately performed abortion, previous violent sexual intercourse or rape)
* Cervical, uterine, or tubal infections such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
* Pelvic adhesions (often the result of previous pelvic surgery or PID)
* Endometriosis
* Ovarian cysts
* Uterine Fibroid Tumors

See also: Pelvic Pain

Vulvodynia is a painful, and often hard to diagnose, chronic condition that causes a burning and/or stinging sensation of the vulva and vagina.

See also: Vulvodynia Questions and Answers

Pain and / or discomfort is never part of normal sexual intercourse. If you experience pain during sex, don't be afraid to tell your partner who has no way of knowing that you're uncomfortable unless you talk about what you're feeling. Also make sure to see your doctor for diagnosis and treatment of the underlying cause.

[DesSia]

Maybe yours is too long for her! Seek medical help to ascertain her depth.